How can we apply the admiration in Song of Solomon 5:9 to marriage? Verse in Focus “ How is your beloved better than others, O most beautiful among women? How is your beloved better than any other, that you adjure us so?” (Songs 5:9) Context Fuels the Lesson • The question from the daughters of Jerusalem prompts the bride to describe her husband’s virtues (5:10-16). • Admiration is voiced publicly; it is not merely private affection. • Scripture presents their marriage as a model of covenant love, reflecting the Creator’s design (Genesis 2:24; Ephesians 5:31-32). Why Admiration Matters in Marriage • Builds up, never tears down (Ephesians 4:29). • Reinforces covenant loyalty; spoken praise reminds both spouses of their unique bond (Proverbs 18:21). • Mirrors the way God delights in His people (Isaiah 62:5). • Guards hearts against comparison and dissatisfaction (Songs 8:6-7). Practicing Admiration Daily 1. Speak it – Compliment character traits (“You show such patience with the kids”). – Highlight physical beauty with dignity (“Your smile still turns my head”). – Share admiration in front of family and friends, echoing the bride’s public praise. 2. Write it – Short notes, texts, or emails recalling specific acts of love. – Anniversary or birthday letters recounting “top ten” memories (Songs 5:10-16 structure). 3. Show it – Acts of service that prove words are not empty (1 John 3:18). – Gentle touch, eye contact, and attentive listening signal honor. 4. Celebrate it – Keep photographs, journals, or mementos that tell your marriage story. – Mark milestones with purposeful thanksgiving (Joshua 4:4-7 principle of memorials). Safeguarding Admiration • Refuse negative comparison: “Love does not envy” (1 Corinthians 13:4). • Address conflicts quickly so bitterness cannot silence praise (Ephesians 4:26-27). • Pray for eyes to see your spouse as God does—fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Benefits You’ll Notice • Deeper emotional intimacy; words open hearts (Songs 4:9). • Greater security for both spouses; love casts out fear (1 John 4:18). • A home atmosphere that honors Christ and models grace to children (Proverbs 31:28-29). Key Takeaways • Intentional admiration, voiced and demonstrated, is biblical, powerful, and protective. • Follow the bride’s example: answer the world’s question, “How is your beloved better?” with specific, joyful praise. • Consistent admiration turns ordinary days into ongoing, God-honoring love songs. |
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