How can we apply the admiration shown in Song of Solomon 1:9 today? The Setting of Songs 1:9 “I compare you, my darling, to a mare among Pharaoh’s chariots.” (Songs 1:9) • Pharaoh’s chariot horses were prized, rare, and dazzling in the sun; the groom’s comparison elevates his bride as uniquely beautiful and worthy of honor. • The verse models heartfelt, imaginative praise that recognizes value, dignity, and singular worth. Timeless Principle: Verbal Admiration • God designed words to build up (Proverbs 18:21; Ephesians 4:29). • Affectionate speech is not mere flattery; it echoes God’s own delight in His people (Zephaniah 3:17). • Love that remains silent can feel doubtful; voiced admiration confirms love’s reality (1 John 3:18). Practical Ways to Show Admiration Today • Speak specifics, not clichés: highlight character traits, sacrifices, achievements. • Use creative imagery: fresh comparisons keep praise lively, just as Solomon’s equine metaphor was bold and memorable. • Go public wisely: a thoughtful compliment before friends or family can multiply joy (Proverbs 31:28). • Write it down: a note, text, or mailed card creates a lasting reminder. • Let admiration outweigh correction: follow the “grace-first” pattern of Revelation 2:2–3, 6, 19. Admiration Within Marriage • Husbands: imitate Christ, who “loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). Verbal honor is part of that sacrificial care. • Wives: echo the Shulammite’s responsiveness (Songs 1:16) and the respect commended in Ephesians 5:33. • Daily practice: – Start and end the day with a sincere word of appreciation. – Celebrate virtues before discussing tasks or problems. – Rehearse shared memories that highlight each other’s strengths. Admiration in Community • Church life thrives on mutual honor: “Outdo one another in showing honor” (Romans 12:10). • Encourage regularly: “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11). • Model for the next generation: children learn how to value others by what they hear at home and in the congregation (Deuteronomy 6:6-7). Guarding Our Words • Reject sarcasm and casual put-downs (James 3:9-10). • Pray Psalm 141:3—“Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth”—before speaking. • Replace critical impulses with praise, following Philippians 4:8. Living It Out • Ask the Lord to open your eyes daily to the beauty, gifts, and growth in the people around you. • Choose intentional moments—at the dinner table, during a call, before bedtime—to voice admiration. • Remember that admiration is a reflection of God’s own heart; when we honor others, we mirror His love and bring Him glory. |
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