What practical steps can husbands take to prioritize their wives biblically? Pleasing Your Wife: A Biblical Mandate “ But the married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:33) From the Spirit’s pen through Paul comes a clear charge: a husband’s earthly concern is to please his wife. Below are practical ways to make that calling visible each day. Renew Your Mind With God’s Perspective • See her as Christ’s precious daughter—“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). • View your union as “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24), never as two competing agendas. • Remember you are an heir “together of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7); spiritual equality fuels humble service. Carve Out Uninterrupted Time • Put her on the calendar first; treat date night like an immovable work meeting. • Guard a daily check-in—phones down, eyes up, ears open. • Schedule weekly Sabbath rhythms that refresh her, whether that’s a quiet walk, shared worship music, or family devotionals. Listen Actively and Empathetically • Reflect back what she says before offering solutions (James 1:19). • Ask, “Is this something you’d like me to fix or just hear?” to honor her needs. • Track her emotional “weather report”; respond with patience, not dismissiveness (Colossians 3:19). Serve Sacrificially in the Everyday • Do hidden chores without announcement (Mark 10:45). • Handle bedtime with the kids so she can rest or read. • Protect her margins by running errands or meal-planning together. Lead Spiritually, Not Domineeringly • Open Scripture at the table or before bed. Even five verses read aloud breeds unity (Deuteronomy 6:6-7). • Pray over her needs aloud; she hears your faith and feels your covering (Ephesians 6:18). • Initiate church involvement and small-group attendance. Speak Life-Giving Words • Affirm her character and efforts daily—“Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also” (Proverbs 31:28). • Express delight in her beauty (Song of Songs 4:7). • Text simple encouragements during the workday. Nurture Ongoing Romance • Keep pursuing her; small surprises outrank grand but rare gestures. • Guard sexual intimacy—“Let her breasts satisfy you at all times” (Proverbs 5:18-19). • Talk openly about desires and boundaries (1 Corinthians 7:3-5). Champion Her God-Given Calling • Celebrate her gifts; free up budget or time for classes, ministries, or business ideas (Proverbs 31:16). • Stand up for her when extended family or work pressures encroach. • Share the parenting load so she can thrive in her pursuits. Guard Against Common Threats • Overwork: success at the office must never mean failure at home. • Screen addiction: set device curfews; give her undivided attention. • Comparison: refuse to measure her—or yourself—against filtered social media snapshots (Galatians 6:4). Anchor Everything in the Gospel Jesus laid down His life to win His bride. When that sacrifice shapes a husband’s choices, pleasing his wife stops being a burden and becomes worship. |
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