In what ways can we practice empathy like Job's friends initially did? Scripture Focus “Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights, but no one spoke a word to him because they saw how great his suffering was.” (Job 2:13) What They Got Right • They showed up—traveling far to be physically present. • They entered Job’s world—sitting on the ground, sharing his low place. • They kept silent—choosing presence over premature advice. • They let time breathe—seven days, refusing to rush grief. Drawing from the Wider Witness of Scripture • Romans 12:15—“Mourn with those who mourn.” Presence precedes speech. • Galatians 6:2—“Carry one another’s burdens.” Empathy is active, not distant. • Proverbs 17:17—“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” Affliction reveals true friendship. • John 11:35—“Jesus wept.” The Lord Himself validated silent tears. • 2 Corinthians 1:3-4—We comfort others with the comfort we receive from God. Practical Ways to Practice Empathy Today • Notice suffering – Ask the Spirit to sharpen your awareness of hurting people. • Show up – A visit, a text saying “I’m outside if you’d like company,” or a seat at the hospital waiting room. • Share the space – Match their posture: sit if they’re sitting, keep the room dim if they prefer. • Stay quiet at first – Let them speak when ready; silence is not awkward when love is present. • Listen actively – Eye contact, gentle nods, no phone in hand. • Offer simple, tangible help – Meals, childcare, a ride—actions that whisper, “You’re not alone.” • Pray silently – Intercede while you sit; God hears, and your friend feels the calm. • Guard your words – Avoid “At least…” or theological lectures. Truth without timing wounds. • Return later – Empathy is marathon care, not a one-time gesture. Guardrails to Keep Empathy Pure • Resist fixing mode—Job’s friends stumbled when they started diagnosing. • Keep confidences—protect the sufferer’s story. • Check motives—serve out of love, not curiosity or self-importance. • Let Scripture shape responses—speak only what builds up (Ephesians 4:29). The Fruit of Faithful Presence When we mirror Job’s friends in their finest hour, we embody Christ’s compassion. Our silence becomes a sanctuary, our presence a reminder that God still draws near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). |
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