How should we respond to others' successes, as Toi did with David? Setting the Scene “When Toi king of Hamath heard that David had defeated the entire army of Hadadezer, he sent his son Joram to King David to greet him, to bless him for fighting against Hadadezer and defeating him, for Hadadezer had been at war with Toi. Joram brought articles of silver and gold and bronze.” (2 Samuel 8:9-10) David’s victory removed a long-standing enemy of Toi. Instead of envy, fear, or indifference, Toi honored David and actively celebrated his success. Observing Toi’s Response - He listened: “heard that David had defeated…” - He acted promptly: “sent his son Joram…” - He expressed goodwill: “to greet him, to bless him…” - He gave tangible gifts: “articles of silver and gold and bronze.” - He recognized God’s broader purpose: relief from a mutual foe. Principles We Can Embrace - Celebrate, don’t compete. - Speak blessing, not begrudging words. - Give concrete support that matches the occasion. - See the bigger kingdom picture—another’s victory may advance God’s plan for many. Examples from Elsewhere in Scripture - “Rejoice with those who rejoice.” (Romans 12:15) - “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or empty pride…but in humility consider others more important than yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3-4) - “Love…does not envy.” (1 Corinthians 13:4) - “Do not withhold good from the deserving when it is within your power to act.” (Proverbs 3:27) - “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder…” (James 3:16) Practical Steps for Today - Notice successes quickly—send a message, call, or show up. - Verbally affirm God’s work in the other person’s life. - Offer practical help or a meaningful gift that furthers their progress. - Guard the heart against envy by thanking God for the blessing you witness. - Tell others about what God has done through them, spreading edification. Closing Thoughts Toi’s spontaneous honor toward David models a kingdom-minded response to someone else’s triumph. When we set aside envy, rejoice sincerely, and contribute to their ongoing success, we mirror the love, humility, and unity God desires among His people. |
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