How should Song of Solomon 7:6 influence a Christian's understanding of romantic love? Immediate Literary Context Song 7:6 lies in the bridegroom’s climactic praise of his bride (7:1-9). The Hebrew idiom combines “fair” (yāphêh) and “pleasant” (nāʿîm) to laud both the objective beauty and the subjective enjoyment found in the beloved. The phrase “with your delights” (bᵊʿanuggōṯayiḵ) underscores repeated, ongoing pleasures. This poetic moment is not a detached compliment; it is situated within a covenantal framework already established in 3:11 and 4:8-12, where marriage language and exclusive garden imagery abound. The verse therefore models covenant-guarded, joy-filled admiration. Canonical Theology of Romantic Love 1. Creation: Genesis 2:24 teaches that marital union is God-designed, pre-Fall, and “very good.” Songs 7:6 echoes Edenic harmony by celebrating unashamed physical intimacy. 2. Wisdom: Proverbs contrasts adulterous flattery (Proverbs 7) with righteous marital delight (Proverbs 5:18-19). Songs 7:6 incarnates the latter. 3. Redemption: Ephesians 5:22-33 frames marriage as a living parable of Christ’s love for the Church. The exuberant praise of Songs 7:6 prefigures the Bridegroom’s delight (Zephaniah 3:17; Hebrews 12:2). Celebration of Physical Beauty within Covenant Song 7:6 affirms that visible, tangible attraction is God-approved when housed in covenant faithfulness. “Fair” acknowledges aesthetic dignity rooted in Imago Dei (Genesis 1:27). “Pleasant” reminds believers that God created sensory experience (1 Timothy 4:4). Romantic love is not merely tolerated; it is called “pleasant.” By praising his bride’s “delights,” the husband declares that holy marriage should include ongoing discovery and enjoyment of each other’s bodies (1 Corinthians 7:3-5). This rebuts both asceticism that despises the body and secular sensuality divorced from commitment. Delight as a Reflection of Divine Joy The Hebrew anug (“delight”) appears in Isaiah 58:14 for delighting in the LORD. Romantic delight, therefore, mirrors divine delight. As God takes pleasure in His people, spouses may rightly take pleasure in one another. Christians learn that pleasure is not antithetical to holiness; rather, covenant channels it God-ward. Mutuality and Honor Earlier, the bride extols her beloved (Songs 5:10-16). Songs 7:6 shows reciprocal esteem. Mutual admiration combats power imbalances, confirming New Testament calls for mutual submission (Ephesians 5:21). A Christian understanding of romantic love must include equal dignity, vocal affirmation, and rejoicing in the other’s God-given personhood. Guardrails: Exclusivity and Fidelity The verse’s intensity assumes exclusivity. Throughout the Song, the refrain “Do not arouse or awaken love until it pleases” (2:7; 3:5; 8:4) sets moral boundaries. Therefore, 7:6 informs Christians that romantic delight is safe only inside exclusive fidelity (Hebrews 13:4). This grounds teaching on sexual purity, pornography avoidance, and emotional faithfulness. Typological Foreshadowing: Christ and the Church Early Jewish and Christian interpreters read the Song typologically. While the primary meaning is marital, the Spirit inspires deeper resonance: Christ calls His bride “fair and pleasant,” clothing her in beauty (Revelation 19:7-8). The verse thus fuels worship, reminding believers of the eschatological wedding feast and motivating marital love to mirror gospel realities. Sanctification of Desire Desire itself—often viewed suspiciously—is here sanctified. Paul’s instruction to “present your bodies as a living sacrifice” (Romans 12:1) does not negate bodily affection; it consecrates it. When spouses echo Songs 7:6, they practice sanctified desire, cultivating gratitude rather than covetousness. Practical Implications for Courtship and Marriage • Courtship should honor both beauty and character, refusing utilitarian views of marriage. • Married couples should verbalize admiration; silent appreciation is insufficient. • Date nights, physical affection, and creative celebration are biblically warranted, not worldly concessions. • Counseling should encourage spouses to explore “delights” within agreed limits, countering shame narratives. Pastoral Applications: Counseling and Ministry Premarital classes: highlight Songs 7:6 to dismantle the myth that spirituality is at odds with physical attraction. Marriage retreats: use the verse in exercises on compliment-giving and gratitude journaling. Singles ministry: teach delayed gratification framed positively—God reserves delights for covenant, not because He withholds joy, but because He maximizes it. Cultural Engagement and Purity In a culture that commodifies bodies, Songs 7:6 offers a counter-narrative: bodies are to be cherished, not consumed. Christians champion dignity, fight exploitation, and reclaim romance as worship. Public discourse can reference the Song to show that Scripture is pro-romance yet anti-lust, pro-pleasure yet anti-abuse. Conclusion Song of Solomon 7:6 instructs Christians that romantic love is divinely endorsed, mutually honoring, exclusive, joyful, and reflective of God’s own delight. It calls believers to celebrate physical beauty within covenant, verbalize admiration, guard fidelity, and view marital affection as a gospel parable. By embracing these truths, couples glorify God and model to a watching world the profound goodness of redeemed romance. |