How can Song of Solomon 1:13 inspire deeper affection in Christian marriages? The Fragrant Symbolism of Myrrh “ My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh resting between my breasts.” (Songs 1:13) • Myrrh was a costly, sweet-smelling resin kept close to the body so its aroma would warm and release gradually throughout the day. • Placed “between my breasts,” it lay over the heart—symbolizing constant nearness, tender protection, and treasured value. • The bride’s language is not figurative affection only; it depicts literal, sensual delight sanctioned by God (cf. Genesis 2:24–25). Cherishing Presence Even When Apart • Just as the sachet releases fragrance whether or not the beloved is physically present, spouses can cultivate an awareness of each other’s love during work hours, travel, or seasons of busyness. • Simple memory triggers—saved notes, a familiar cologne, a favorite song—keep affection “resting” over the heart. • This practice counters drift and guards against the loneliness that can creep into marriage (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). Nurturing Delight Through the Senses • God designed marital love to engage every sense (Proverbs 5:18-19). • Sight: intentional eye contact, smiling often. • Smell: special fragrances reserved for one another. • Touch: non-sexual affection through the day prepares the heart for intimacy at night (1 Corinthians 7:3-5). • Sound: gentle tones, affirming words (Ephesians 4:29). • Taste: shared meals, surprise desserts, or morning coffee in bed. Practical Pathways to Rekindle Affection • Set aside a “myrrh moment” daily—five uninterrupted minutes to hold one another and speak one reason you are grateful for your spouse. • Exchange a small token that can be carried: a verse on cardstock, a photo, a piece of jewelry blessed with a whispered promise (Songs 8:6). • Refresh shared fragrance: choose a new candle, lotion, or aftershave used only when together, building olfactory memories. • Plan a monthly evening devoted solely to physical closeness—no screens, no chores, just conversation, laughter, and intimacy. • Revisit courting stories; telling “how we met” reignites first-love wonder (Revelation 2:4-5a). Safeguarding the Sacredness of Marital Intimacy • Treat the marriage bed as holy (Hebrews 13:4). Private delights stay private, shielding oneness from outside intrusion. • Confess and forgive quickly; resentment is a stench that overpowers sweet myrrh (Colossians 3:13). • Pray individually for your spouse’s joy and purity, then watch affection deepen when hearts are right with God (1 Peter 3:7). Gospel Echoes in Marital Affection • Christ loved the church “and gave Himself up for her” so she might be fragrant with holiness (Ephesians 5:25-27). • When husband and wife cherish one another like myrrh over the heart, they mirror this sacrificial, ever-present love to a watching world. |
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