What does "bring them up in the discipline" mean in Ephesians 6:4? Setting the Verse in Context Ephesians 6:4: “Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” • Paul has just spoken to children about obedience (6:1–3). • Now he turns to fathers (by extension, both parents), balancing authority with responsibility. Unpacking the Phrase “Bring Them Up” • Greek: ektrephete — “to nourish, rear, cherish to maturity.” • Picture: tending a garden—consistent care, patience, purposeful cultivation. • Implies a long-term, daily investment, not a momentary command. Understanding “in the Discipline” • Greek: paideia — comprehensive training that shapes character. – Includes correction, boundaries, and consequences. – Encompasses positive training, not merely punishment. • Biblical discipline is: 1. Loving — never harsh or venting anger (see Hebrews 12:6). 2. Measured — proportionate and intentional (Proverbs 13:24). 3. Goal-oriented — aiming at godliness, not mere outward compliance (1 Timothy 4:8). Practical Outworking in the Home • Establish clear, consistent rules tied to Scripture. • Follow through with fair consequences when lines are crossed. • Combine discipline with encouragement: – Affirm obedience quickly (cf. Colossians 3:21, “do not embitter your children”). • Model self-control; parents must submit to God’s discipline themselves. Complementary Passages • Deuteronomy 6:6-7 — daily, diligent teaching in every setting. • Proverbs 22:6 — “Train up a child…” echoes the same paideia concept. • 2 Timothy 3:16 — Scripture itself is “profitable for training (paideia) in righteousness.” • Hebrews 12:9-11 — earthly discipline mirrors our Father’s loving correction that yields “the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” Key Takeaways for Parents • Discipline is an act of nurturing, not venting. • It blends correction with instruction, always pointing to the Lord. • Faithful, consistent training shapes children’s hearts for lifelong obedience to God. |
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