How can Proverbs 15:18 guide conflict resolution in Christian communities?

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Scripture Highlight

“A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but one slow to anger calms dispute.” (Proverbs 15:18)

Key Ideas in the Verse

• Hot-tempered: a quick-flaring anger that actively “stirs up” conflict.

• Slow to anger: deliberate restraint that “calms” (literally, “quiets”) contention.

• Strife vs. calm: the temper of one heart can set the tone for an entire group.

Why Temper Control Matters in the Body

• Our unity is Christ’s visible witness (John 13:35). Unchecked anger mars that testimony.

• Wrath gives Satan “a foothold” (Ephesians 4:26-27), opening doors to gossip, division, and bitterness.

• Peace and patience are Spirit-grown fruit (Galatians 5:22-23); embracing them displays God’s work in us.

Practical Ways to Be “Slow to Anger”

• Pause before reacting. Count to ten or step away briefly to pray and cool down (James 1:19-20).

• Listen first, speak second. Hearing the full story often defuses misunderstanding.

• Choose gentle words. “A gentle answer turns away wrath” (Proverbs 15:1).

• Remember your own need for mercy. Christ’s forgiveness toward us fuels patience toward others (Colossians 3:12-13).

• Ask the Spirit for self-control. Dependence on Him turns a natural temper into supernatural calm.

When Conflicts Already Exist

1. Acknowledge the hurt without accusation. State facts, not motives.

2. Own your share of fault quickly (Matthew 7:3-5). Humility disarms hostility.

3. Seek reconciliation, not victory. The goal is restored fellowship, not proving a point.

4. Act promptly. “Abandon the dispute before it breaks out” (Proverbs 17:14). Lingering tension hardens hearts.

5. If needed, invite wise, impartial believers to mediate (Matthew 18:15-16).

Fruit That Follows Obedience

• Conversations shift from heated to constructive.

• Trust deepens inside the fellowship.

• Outsiders notice a counter-cultural grace at work.

• God receives glory as peace rules hearts (Colossians 3:15).

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