What role does appreciation play in relationships, as seen in Song of Solomon 7:9? Setting the Verse in Context • Song of Solomon captures the real, God-given delight of husband and wife. • Chapter 7 is a conversation where the man praises his bride from head to toe, culminating in verse 9. The Words of Songs 7:9 “and your mouth like the finest wine—May it flow smoothly to my beloved, gliding gently over lips and teeth.” Key Observations on Appreciation • Appreciation is spoken out loud. The groom verbalizes what he values. • The imagery of “finest wine” points to richness, pleasure, and savoring—nothing rushed or casual. • The bride immediately receives and echoes the praise (“May it flow smoothly…”), showing appreciation breeds response, not silence. • The language is particular, not vague; true appreciation notices specifics. Appreciation as a Relational Catalyst • Builds Intimacy – Words of admiration invite closeness (cf. Proverbs 25:11). • Imparts Security – Reassurance of worth silences insecurity (cf. Proverbs 31:28). • Fuels Mutual Joy – Delight multiplies when both partners actively praise one another (cf. Songs 4:7, 10). • Affirms Exclusivity – By naming her mouth “the finest wine,” the husband signals she alone satisfies him (cf. Genesis 2:23-24). • Mirrors God’s Design – God Himself blesses verbally (Genesis 1); couples imitate Him when they speak blessing. Practical Takeaways for Today • Speak praise frequently—don’t assume your spouse “already knows.” • Be specific: highlight a trait, action, or word that blessed you. • Let appreciation be mutual; receive it gratefully and reciprocate. • Choose uplifting comparisons; avoid sarcasm that tears down (Ephesians 4:29). • Remember the Source: gratitude for your spouse ultimately honors the Lord who gave the gift (James 1:17). Supporting Scriptures • Proverbs 18:21 – “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” • Colossians 3:19 – “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” • 1 Thessalonians 5:11 – “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up.” |
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