How can we apply Moses' respectful request to our own conflict resolutions today? Setting the Scene “ So I sent messengers from the Wilderness of Kedemoth to Sihon king of Heshbon with peaceful words, saying … ” (Deuteronomy 2:26). Moses, under God’s direction, initiates contact with a potential enemy by sending “peaceful words.” That single phrase models a godly posture in conflict: speak peace first. What Moses Did Right • He initiated dialogue before confrontation. • He chose respectful, “peaceful words.” • He honored boundaries—asking permission instead of forcing his way (2:27). • He pledged fair dealings—“We will buy food … water … only let us pass through” (2:28–29). Principles for Our Conflict Resolutions 1. Begin With Peaceful Intent • Romans 12:18—“If it is possible… live at peace with everyone.” • Matthew 5:9—Peacemakers are called “sons of God.” • Application: Before airing grievances, state the desire for peace. Tone shapes outcomes. 2. Respect the Other Party’s Authority and Boundaries • 1 Peter 2:17—“Honor everyone…” • Ephesians 4:2—“with all humility and gentleness.” • Application: Ask rather than demand. Acknowledge the other person’s right to decide. 3. Communicate Clearly and Honestly • Proverbs 16:21—“pleasant words promote instruction.” • Application: Spell out terms, expectations, and commitments (as Moses offered payment). Transparency builds trust. 4. Offer Tangible Good-Will • Luke 6:31—“Do to others as you would have them do to you.” • Application: Accompany words with actionable fairness—shared costs, reasonable compromises, gestures of service. 5. Trust God’s Sovereignty Over Results • Deuteronomy 2:30 notes that Sihon refused. Moses was still obedient. • Proverbs 21:1—“The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD…” • Application: Pursue peace faithfully; leave the response—and any vindication—to the Lord. Putting It Into Practice This Week • Draft your “peaceful words” before a difficult conversation. • Open with respect: acknowledge the other person’s viewpoint or authority. • Present clear, fair terms; offer something of value. • Pray, then trust God with the outcome, whether acceptance or refusal. Like Moses, we obey the command to seek peace first, confident that God honors respectful requests even when others do not. |
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