How can we apply the principles of reconciliation from 2 Samuel 14:23 today? The setting: an estranged son and a determined mediator “ So Joab went to Geshur and brought Absalom to Jerusalem.” – 2 Samuel 14:23 David’s son Absalom had fled after killing his brother. Joab saw the misery that lingered between father and son and took the initiative to bring the wanderer home. This single verse captures a turning point in a broken family’s story and offers timeless guidance for our own conflicts. Principle 1: someone must take the first step • Joab did not wait for Absalom or David to move; he went. • Matthew 5:23-24 – Jesus tells us to leave the altar and be reconciled first. • Initiative shows love that values relationship over ego. Principle 2: reconciliation shrinks the distance • Joab had to travel to Geshur, bridging physical and emotional miles. • Ephesians 2:13 – “You who once were far away have been brought near by the blood of Christ.” • Practical today: send the text, make the call, show up in person when possible. Principle 3: restoration may be gradual • Absalom reached Jerusalem, yet full fellowship with David took additional time (2 Samuel 14:24,28). • Colossians 3:13 – “Bear with one another… forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Patience has to accompany forgiveness. • Set realistic expectations: returning home is a start, not the finale. Principle 4: justice and mercy must meet • David still had to reckon with Absalom’s sin; reconciliation did not erase accountability (cf. 2 Samuel 14:33; 15:1-6). • Psalm 85:10 – “Mercy and truth have met together; righteousness and peace have kissed.” • Healthy reconciliation refuses to ignore wrongdoing while refusing to withhold mercy. Living it out today • Ask the Lord to reveal any relationship where you need to “go to Geshur.” • Take a concrete step within the next 24 hours: a call, letter, coffee invitation. • Listen more than you speak; Joab’s journey succeeded because he understood both sides. • Set boundaries that protect, not punish. Clear expectations help prevent new wounds. • Celebrate incremental progress; each step back toward fellowship is God-honoring. Scriptural anchors for ongoing study • 2 Corinthians 5:18-19 – God gave us the ministry of reconciliation. • Romans 12:18 – “If it is possible… live at peace with everyone.” • Ephesians 4:31-32 – Put away bitterness, be kind, forgive. • Luke 15:20 – The father ran to the prodigal; love moves first. A final word of hope Reconciliation is costly, but Christ already paid the highest price to reconcile us to the Father. When we mirror His heart by going after estranged brothers, sisters, friends, or family, we put the gospel on display in real time. |
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