What does Ephesians 5:28 reveal about the nature of marital love? What the Verse Says “Likewise, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” (Ephesians 5:28) Love That Values the One-Flesh Union • Paul ties marital love to the reality that husband and wife are “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). • Because they are united, caring for one’s spouse is literally caring for oneself. • Neglect of a spouse therefore becomes self-harm; active love becomes self-care. Love That Guards, Nourishes, and Cherishes Just as we instinctively protect and nurture our own bodies, so a husband must: • Guard his wife’s safety and well-being (Proverbs 31:11-12). • Provide emotional and spiritual nourishment (1 Peter 3:7). • Cherish her with gentleness and honor, avoiding harshness (Colossians 3:19). Love Modeled After Christ • The surrounding context (Ephesians 5:25) calls husbands to love “just as Christ loved the church.” • Christ’s sacrificial, servant-hearted care sets the standard (John 13:1-15). • Such love is purposeful, aiming to present the wife “radiant” (Ephesians 5:27). Practical Outworkings • Speak words that build up, not tear down (Ephesians 4:29). • Lead in humility, putting her interests first (Philippians 2:3-4). • Cultivate physical affection and faithfulness (1 Corinthians 7:3-4). • Pray with and for her regularly (1 Thessalonians 5:17). Why This Love Matters • It reflects the gospel to children, church, and watching world (John 13:35). • It fosters unity, peace, and mutual joy in the home (Psalm 133:1). • It obeys and honors God, bringing blessing to both husband and wife (James 1:25). |