How can you avoid being rude?
What practical steps can you take to avoid being "rude" as described?

Setting the Verse in View

“Love is patient, love is kind… it is not rude…” (1 Corinthians 13:5)


What Rudeness Looks Like

• Dismissing someone mid-sentence

• Speaking with a harsh or careless tone

• Ignoring basic courtesies (“please,” “thank you,” “excuse me”)

• Interrupting, eye-rolling, or mocking

• Prioritizing personal convenience over others’ needs


Heart Check: Where Rudeness Begins

Matthew 12:34 reminds us, “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.”

• Rudeness erupts when impatience, pride, or self-importance nest in the heart.


Practical Steps to Lay Aside Rudeness

1. Renew Your Thinking Daily

Romans 12:2: “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

– Begin each day rehearsing 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 aloud to reset attitudes toward others.

2. Slow the Pace

James 1:19: “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.”

– Count to three before responding, giving space for a gentle answer (Proverbs 15:1).

3. Choose Words Carefully

Ephesians 4:29: “Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up.”

– Replace sarcastic barbs with sincere affirmation.

– Keep volume moderate; tone communicates as much as content.

4. Practice Visible Courtesy

• Hold doors, yield in traffic, return shopping carts.

• Offer your seat or place in line.

• Look people in the eye and smile; acknowledge service workers by name (Colossians 4:6).

5. Guard Digital Interactions

– Before posting or texting, reread with this filter: “Does this honor Christ and respect the recipient?”

– Avoid sarcasm or all-caps shouting; remember virtual words carry real weight (Proverbs 18:21).

6. Cultivate Empathy

Philippians 2:4: “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

• Ask, “How would I feel hearing this? Experiencing this delay? Receiving this critique?”

7. Seek Accountability

– Invite a trusted friend or family member to flag rude patterns gently.

– Celebrate progress together; confess and correct quickly when you stumble (1 John 1:9).

8. Serve Regularly

– Volunteering refocuses attention off self and onto others, softening edges that breed rudeness (Mark 10:45).


Measuring Growth

• Increasingly mindful pauses before speaking

• Positive feedback from family, coworkers, and strangers

• Inner peace replacing irritation when plans change


Closing Charge

“Let all that you do be done in love.” (1 Corinthians 16:14)

Live each moment conscious that every courteous word and action testifies to the transforming power of Christ’s love.

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