What steps can we take to ensure we "go and point out the fault"? Reading the Key Verse “If your brother sins against you, go and confront him privately. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.” – Matthew 18:15 Understanding the Heart Behind the Command • Christ calls us to restore, not to embarrass (Galatians 6:1). • Private confrontation protects reputations (Proverbs 17:9). • The ultimate aim is regained fellowship (James 5:19-20). Preparing Our Own Heart First • Examine yourself for any hypocrisy (Matthew 7:3-5). • Pray for pure motives and gentle words (Psalm 19:14). • Commit to forgiveness in advance (Colossians 3:13). • Remember the mercy you have received (Ephesians 4:32). Choosing the Right Setting • Meet face-to-face whenever possible; tone and body language matter (Proverbs 25:11-12). • Select a private, neutral place—never a public arena. • Allow enough time so the conversation isn’t rushed. Speaking the Truth in Love • Open with affirmation: express the value you place on the relationship (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). • State the specific offense without exaggeration or vague accusations. • Use “I observed” rather than “You always.” • Keep your words gracious, seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6). • Listen actively—give the other person space to clarify or repent (James 1:19). Keeping the Goal in View • Seek repentance and reconciliation, not personal vindication (2 Corinthians 5:18). • Be ready to extend forgiveness the moment it is sought (Luke 17:3-4). • Offer practical steps to rebuild trust if needed. When the First Conversation Doesn’t Work • Bring along one or two spiritually mature witnesses (Matthew 18:16). • Maintain the same gracious tone; the presence of others adds weight, not hostility. • If still unresolved, involve church leadership in accord with Matthew 18:17, always aiming for restoration. Living Out Reconciliation • Celebrate repentance—“you have won your brother over.” • Refuse to rehearse the offense after forgiveness is given (Isaiah 43:25). • Pray for one another and serve together; shared obedience knits hearts (Philippians 2:1-2). • Continue watching over each other in love (Hebrews 10:24-25). Putting It All Together 1. Search your own heart. 2. Seek the Spirit’s guidance. 3. Speak privately, clearly, and kindly. 4. Persist in love through each step Christ outlined. 5. Rejoice when fellowship is restored. Obeying this pattern honors the Lord, preserves unity, and displays the gospel’s power to reconcile sinners made whole in Christ. |
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