How can we lovingly confront someone who has wandered from the truth? Grounding Ourselves in the Text “My brothers, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring him back,” (James 5:19) “consider this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and cover over a multitude of sins.” (James 5:20) Remember the Goal: Restoration, Not Defeat • The aim is to bring a wandering believer back into fellowship with Christ (James 5:19-20). • Restoration reflects God’s heart: “Instead, speaking the truth in love…” (Ephesians 4:15). • It is an act of rescue, not an exercise in winning an argument. Prepare Your Own Heart First • Examine motives—confrontation without love becomes condemnation (1 Corinthians 13:1-3). • Confess any bitterness or pride. • Pray for wisdom and gentleness (James 1:5). Approach with Gentle Courage • “Brothers, if someone is caught in a trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him with a spirit of gentleness” (Galatians 6:1). • Gentleness is not weakness; it is strength under control, guided by the Spirit. Anchor the Conversation in Scripture • “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for instruction, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16-17). • Share specific passages that address the issue, letting God’s Word do the convicting. • Avoid opinion-laden arguments; point to clear biblical teaching. Choose the Right Setting and Words • “If your brother sins against you, go and confront him privately. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over” (Matthew 18:15). • Speak privately first; public exposure breeds shame. • A gentle tone disarms defensiveness: “A gentle answer turns away wrath” (Proverbs 15:1). Call Them Back to Christ, Not Just Better Behavior • Emphasize relationship with Jesus over mere rule-keeping (John 15:4-5). • Remind them of their identity in Christ and the sufficiency of His grace (2 Corinthians 5:17). • Encourage repentance as a return to fellowship, not a ritual of penance (1 John 1:9). Extend Grace and Patience • “Bear with one another and forgive any complaint you may have against someone else. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13). • Restoration is often a process; remain available for follow-up conversation. • Love “always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” (1 Corinthians 13:7). Walk Alongside After the Conversation • Encourage ongoing discipleship—study the Word together, attend worship, cultivate accountability (Hebrews 10:24-25). • “And we urge you, brothers, to admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, and be patient with everyone” (1 Thessalonians 5:14). • Pray continually for their growth and for your own steadfast love. Trust God with the Outcome • Cast every concern on Him: “Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7). • Ultimately, only the Holy Spirit can soften hearts and bring true repentance; our role is faithful obedience. |
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