How can we lovingly confront a believer involved in the sins mentioned? Setting the Stage “But now I am writing you not to associate with anyone who claims to be a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or verbal abuser, a drunkard or swindler. With such a man do not even eat.” (1 Corinthians 5:11) Paul’s words are strong because the stakes are high: the witness of the church, the purity of Christ’s body, and the soul of the wandering believer. Yet the goal is never condemnation; it is loving restoration. Understanding the Command • The phrase “claims to be a brother” targets professing believers, not unbelievers (v. 10). • The sins listed—sexual immorality, greed, idolatry, abusive speech, drunkenness, swindling—are practiced, not merely stumbled into (cf. 1 John 3:9). • “Do not even eat” communicates serious boundary-setting, but within a redemptive framework (2 Thessalonians 3:14-15). Preparing Our Hearts Before speaking, we look inward: • Examine ourselves (Matthew 7:3-5). • Pray for humility and courage; we are fellow sinners saved by grace (Galatians 6:1). • Commit to speak “the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15). Taking the First Step 1. Private Conversation (Matthew 18:15) – Approach gently, face-to-face. – State the observed sin with Scripture, not speculation. – Affirm love and willingness to walk with them toward repentance. 2. Call to Repentance – Explain the gravity: unrepentant sin dishonors Christ and harms the church (1 Corinthians 3:16-17). – Offer practical help—accountability, counseling, resources. Escalating Biblically If the private appeal is refused: • Bring one or two witnesses (Matthew 18:16) to confirm facts and add loving pressure. • If still unresponsive, inform church leadership and ultimately the congregation (Matthew 18:17). • Church discipline may include removing the person from membership and table fellowship (1 Corinthians 5:2, 11). Maintaining Boundaries with Love • Do not treat the brother or sister as an enemy (2 Thessalonians 3:15). • Maintain limited, purposeful contact aimed at repentance, not casual socializing. • Consistently communicate: “We long to welcome you back the moment you turn.” Staying Grounded in Hope • God’s discipline is evidence of sonship (Hebrews 12:6). • Restoration is always the end goal (James 5:19-20). • Rejoice quickly and fully when repentance comes (2 Corinthians 2:6-8). Confrontation done God’s way may feel hard, but it is a powerful act of love—rescuing a brother or sister, preserving the church’s witness, and honoring the Lord who bought us with His blood. |
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