In what ways can we avoid making impulsive decisions like Herod in Matthew 14:9? The Story Behind Herod’s Impulsive Choice Matthew 14:9 records, “The king was grieved, but because of his oaths and his guests, he ordered that her wish be granted”. Herod’s rash promise, driven by pride, public pressure, and unbridled passion, led to the unjust execution of John the Baptist. His sorrow shows he knew better—yet he chose face-saving over obedience to God. Roots of Impulsiveness to Watch For • Desire to impress others (Galatians 1:10) • Fear of embarrassment or loss of status (Proverbs 29:25) • Speaking before thinking (Ecclesiastes 5:2) • Making vows in the heat of emotion (Proverbs 20:25) • Refusing counsel and accountability (Proverbs 11:14) Practices that Help Us Slow Down • Pause and pray—invite the Lord’s wisdom before words leave your mouth (James 1:5) • Listen first, speak later: “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak” (James 1:19) • Search the Scriptures for clear commands or principles touching the issue at hand • Seek godly counsel from mature believers (Proverbs 15:22) • Examine motives—am I pleasing God or people? (Galatians 1:10) • Consider short- and long-term consequences (Luke 14:28) • Be willing to humble yourself and retract a rash promise if it conflicts with righteousness (Acts 5:29) Scriptural Safeguards for Wise Choices • Proverbs 20:25 — “It is a trap for a man to dedicate something rashly and only later to reconsider his vows.” • Proverbs 11:14 — “For lack of guidance, a nation falls, but with many counselors there is deliverance.” • Luke 14:28 — “Which of you, wishing to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost…?” • Acts 5:29 — “We must obey God rather than men.” • Colossians 3:17 — “And whatever you do in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus.” Living It Out Daily • Start each morning in the Word, asking God to rule your thoughts and tongue • Memorize key verses (James 1:19; Proverbs 20:25) to recall when decisions arise • Keep a journal to track decisions, seeking patterns of haste to surrender to Christ • Form an accountability circle—give trusted believers permission to challenge rash plans • Practice “the holy pause”: breathe, pray, reflect before committing • Value integrity over image; better to disappoint people than disobey God • Review the day each evening, confessing any impulsive words or deeds and planning corrective steps Walking in deliberate, Spirit-led wisdom spares us Herod’s grief and brings honor to the One whose counsel never fails. |
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