What can we learn from Elihu's approach in Job 32:14 for resolving conflicts? Setting the Scene Job 32:14: “He has not directed his words against me, and I will not answer him with your arguments.” What Elihu Does Differently • Steps in only after truly listening (32:11–12) • Refuses to repeat heated, unhelpful accusations • Speaks to Job, not about him • Keeps focus on God’s righteousness, not personal offense (32:2) • Declares intent to use fresh words, not recycled rhetoric Conflict-Resolution Principles We Can Apply • Listen first, speak last (James 1:19) • Enter as a neutral, not partisan, voice (Proverbs 18:17) • Avoid “you always/never” language; address the issue itself • Bring Scripture to bear, not mere opinion (2 Timothy 3:16–17) • Refuse to be drawn into bitterness; correct with gentleness (Galatians 6:1) Practical Steps for Today 1. Pause and pray before answering. 2. Ask, “Am I repeating someone else’s grievances, or have I formed a clear, biblical view?” 3. Speak directly and respectfully to the person involved. 4. Offer new, grace-filled insight rooted in God’s Word. 5. Keep spotlight on God’s character and justice, not on winning the dispute. Supporting Scriptures • Proverbs 15:1 — “A gentle answer turns away wrath.” • Matthew 18:15 — “Go and show him his fault, just between the two of you.” • Colossians 4:6 — “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt.” Key Takeaways • Fresh, God-honoring words can break stalemates. • Listening patiently builds credibility. • Speaking from conviction, not imitation, honors truth. • Centering on God’s righteousness keeps conflict from turning personal. |
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