What can we learn from Gideon about handling conflict among believers? The Setting: Gideon Faces Tense Brothers “‘What have I done now in comparison with you?’ Gideon replied. ‘Are not the gleanings of Ephraim better than the vintage of Abiezer?’” (Judges 8:2) The Ephraimites feel slighted because Gideon did not summon them earlier to fight Midian. Their complaint is sharp, yet Gideon’s response is disarming. A Gentle Answer Turns Away Wrath • Gideon chooses words that honor rather than defend. • Instead of rehearsing his own victories, he magnifies theirs: capturing Oreb and Zeeb (v. 3). • His humility calms heated spirits: “their anger… subsided” (Judges 8:3). Proverbs 15:1 echoes this approach: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”. Lessons for Handling Conflict Among Believers 1. Humility over self-promotion – Gideon downplays his role: “What have I accomplished now in comparison with you?” – Philippians 2:3—“in humility consider others more important than yourselves.” 2. Celebrate others’ contributions – He calls Ephraim’s “gleanings” better than his own “vintage.” – Romans 12:10—“outdo one another in showing honor.” 3. Give God the credit – Gideon reminds them, “God has delivered Oreb and Zeeb into your hands” (Judges 8:3). – Psalm 115:1—“Not to us, LORD, not to us, but to Your name give glory.” 4. Use calm, gracious speech – Gideon’s measured tone diffuses hostility. – Colossians 4:6—“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt.” 5. Seek unity, not vindication – Gideon’s goal is restored fellowship, not proving he was right. – Ephesians 4:3—“Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Supporting Scriptures • James 1:19—“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” • Proverbs 12:18—“The tongue of the wise brings healing.” • 1 Peter 3:8—“All of you be like-minded and sympathetic, love as brothers, be tenderhearted and humble.” Putting It into Practice • When criticized, pause and pray before answering. • Look for ways to highlight others’ efforts. • Redirect attention to what God has done rather than what you have done. • Speak softly, aiming to heal, not to win. • Remember: preserving unity in Christ’s body is worth more than defending personal pride. |
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