How can we apply the principle of discernment in our relationships today? Setting the Scene “For they did not meet you with food and water on your way out of Egypt, and they hired Balaam son of Beor from Pethor in Aram-Naharaim to curse you.” (Deuteronomy 23:4) Why God Drew a Line • The Moabites’ refusal of hospitality and their attempt to curse Israel revealed hostile hearts. • God protected His people by limiting covenant fellowship with those who actively opposed His purposes. • Discernment, therefore, is not about prejudice; it is about guarding spiritual vitality. Principle of Discernment Defined • Discernment = the Spirit-guided ability to distinguish between influences that draw us toward God and those that pull us away (Hebrews 5:14). • It involves testing spirits (1 John 4:1) and examining fruit (Matthew 7:15-20). Discernment in Friendships • Walk with the wise and become wise (Proverbs 13:20). • Bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33). • Practical filter: – Does this person encourage obedience to Christ? – Are conversations pure, gracious, and edifying (Ephesians 4:29)? Discernment in Dating and Marriage • “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers” (2 Corinthians 6:14). • Shared faith must be more than nominal; it must be evident in lifestyle and priorities. • Ask: Will this relationship help us both run harder after Jesus or slow one of us down? Discernment in Ministry Partnerships • Paul refused support that carried strings compromising the gospel (1 Corinthians 9:12-18). • Guard teaching platforms: “If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, do not receive him into your house” (2 John 10). • Collaborate with those who hold sound doctrine and genuine devotion. Balancing Love and Caution • Jesus dined with sinners yet “did not entrust Himself to them” (John 2:24). • We are called to love all (Matthew 5:44) while reserving intimate counsel and shared mission for the faithful (Psalm 119:63). Practical Steps for Today 1. Pray for insight before deepening any relationship (James 1:5). 2. Observe consistent patterns, not isolated incidents. 3. Seek wise counsel from mature believers (Proverbs 11:14). 4. Establish boundaries where needed; distance is sometimes the most loving safeguard. 5. Keep personal motives pure; discernment must never become judgmental pride (Galatians 6:1). Promised Blessing of Discernment • Psalm 1:1-3 paints the flourishing life of one who separates from ungodly influence and delights in God’s law. • As we honor God’s protective boundaries, we experience stability, fruitfulness, and an ever-deeper relationship with Him. |
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