How can Proverbs 5:15 be applied to maintaining purity in relationships? Setting the Verse in View “Drink water from your own cistern, and running water from your own well.” (Proverbs 5:15) What the Image Means • In Solomon’s day, a cistern or well was a family’s lifeline. • The picture urges exclusive enjoyment of one’s own source of refreshment—an unmistakable metaphor for the covenant bond between husband and wife. • By extension, it calls every believer—single or married—to keep sexual desire within God-given boundaries. Purity for the Married • Cultivate exclusive delight – Proverbs 5:18-19 describes rejoicing in one’s spouse “at all times.” – Hebrews 13:4 affirms that marriage is to be “honored by all, and the marriage bed kept undefiled.” • Guard the heart and the schedule – Protect private moments with your spouse; limit overfamiliarity with others. • Nourish intimacy regularly – Open communication, shared prayer, date nights, and physical affection replenish the “well.” • Shut off rival streams – Eliminate pornography, flirtation, and emotional affairs (Job 31:1; Matthew 5:28). Purity for the Unmarried • Recognize the future covenant – 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4: “For this is the will of God—your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality.” • Redirect desire toward Christ’s service – 1 Corinthians 7:32-34 highlights undivided devotion to the Lord. • Set clear boundaries – Accountable friendships, guarded media choices, and wise dating practices keep the “well” sealed until marriage. Practical Guardrails • Flee—don’t entertain—temptation (1 Corinthians 6:18). • Memorize and recite key Scriptures when tempted. • Maintain transparent accountability with a trusted believer of the same sex. • Fast from media that normalizes impurity. • Invest time in worship and service; a heart satisfied in God is less prone to wander. Why It Matters • Purity safeguards personal joy—sin’s pleasure is brief, but its scars linger (Proverbs 5:11-12). • Purity protects the home—faithfulness builds trust and security for spouses and children (Malachi 2:15). • Purity points others to Christ—our bodies are “temples of the Holy Spirit” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20); holiness showcases His worth. Drawing From the Ultimate Source Jesus promises, “Whoever drinks of the water I will give him will never thirst” (John 4:14). As we stay close to the Living Water, our own cistern—whether present or future—remains pure, fresh, and deeply satisfying. |