How can we discern God's will through relationships, as seen in 1 Samuel 18:20? Setting the Scene “Saul’s daughter Michal loved David, and when this was reported to Saul, it pleased him.” (1 Samuel 18:20) Immediate Observations • Michal’s affection for David is highlighted as a genuine emotion, yet it also becomes a pivotal piece in the unfolding of God’s plan for David’s future kingship. • Saul’s reaction—“it pleased him”—shows that human motives can be mixed; God still accomplishes His purposes even when people act from self-interest (cf. Genesis 50:20). • The relationship is neither random nor merely romantic; it is an instrument through which God advances David toward the throne promised in 1 Samuel 16:13. How Relationships Help Us Discern God’s Will 1. Alignment with God’s Promises • David had already been anointed king (1 Samuel 16:1–13). Michal’s love moves David one step closer to royal legitimacy. • When a relationship propels us toward God’s revealed calling, it often signals His will (cf. Proverbs 19:21). 2. Confirmation through God-honoring Character • David “behaved wisely in all his ways, and the LORD was with him” (1 Samuel 18:14). • Relational doors that open while our conduct remains upright may carry divine endorsement (cf. Psalm 37:23). 3. Counsel and Community • Jonathan, Saul’s son, had already affirmed David (1 Samuel 18:1–4). Michal’s affection adds another relational witness. • “By the mouth of two or three witnesses every matter shall be established” (Deuteronomy 19:15). Multiple godly voices pointing the same direction can clarify God’s will. 4. Testing of Motives • Saul sought to use the marriage as a snare (1 Samuel 18:21). God allowed the plot, yet turned it for David’s good. • Discernment requires looking past surface opportunities to assess underlying motives (cf. Proverbs 16:2). Practical Steps for Today • Examine alignment: Does this friendship, dating relationship, or partnership draw you closer to God’s mission for your life? • Verify character: Is Christlike fruit evident on both sides (Galatians 5:22–23)? • Seek corroboration: Listen to trusted believers who know God’s Word and know you (Proverbs 11:14). • Check motives: Ask God to reveal any hidden agendas—yours or theirs (Psalm 139:23–24). • Watch for providence: Unexpected doors that fit Scripture’s boundaries often mark divine guidance (Revelation 3:7). Anchor Verses • Proverbs 3:5-6 — “Trust in the LORD with all your heart… He will make your paths straight.” • Proverbs 13:20 — “He who walks with the wise will become wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.” • 1 Corinthians 15:33 — “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” • 2 Corinthians 6:14 — “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” • Mark 3:35 — “Whoever does the will of God is My brother and sister and mother.” Summary In 1 Samuel 18:20, God employs Michal’s love for David to advance His sovereign plan. When relationships affirm God’s promises, confirm godly character, and align with wise counsel, we can confidently recognize them as instruments of His will. |
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