How does Ecclesiastes 3:5 relate to Jesus' teachings on love and forgiveness?

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“a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;” (Ecclesiastes 3:5)

Stone Throwing and Jesus’ Call to Mercy

• In the Law, literal stones were the instrument of judgment (Deuteronomy 17:7).

• Jesus confronted that impulse head-on:

– “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to cast a stone at her.” (John 8:7)

• Connections:

– Ecclesiastes notes there is indeed “a time to cast away stones,” acknowledging that judgment exists.

– Jesus shows that under the New Covenant, the timing for personal stone-throwing has passed; only the sinless Judge can rightly condemn (John 5:22).

• Practical outflow: mercy replaces wrath, because we remember our own forgiven debt (Matthew 18:32-35).

Gathering Stones: Restorative Work

• Ancient builders collected stones to raise walls and altars.

• Jesus gathers, too—He “builds” His church on living stones (1 Peter 2:5).

• Forgiveness is the mortar that bonds those stones together (Colossians 3:13).

Embracing in Love

• The prodigal’s father “ran and embraced him” (Luke 15:20), mirroring God’s eager welcome.

• Jesus commands proactive embrace: “Love one another as I have loved you.” (John 15:12)

• Forgiveness opens the arms; bitterness clenches the fists (Ephesians 4:31-32).

Refraining from Embrace: Loving Boundaries

• Ecclesiastes also allows “a time to refrain from embracing.”

• Jesus models this when He steps away to pray (Mark 1:35) and when He instructs church discipline for unrepentant sin (Matthew 18:15-17).

• Purpose:

– Protect purity (1 Corinthians 5:6-7).

– Prompt repentance that leads back to full embrace (2 Corinthians 2:6-8).

Timing, Discernment, and the Spirit

• The Spirit grants the wisdom to know when to confront and when to cover (Galatians 5:22-23; James 1:5).

• Love and forgiveness are constants; timing governs expression.

• Result: relationships reflect both God’s holiness and His compassion.

Takeaways for Today

• Trade stone-throwing for intercession; judgment belongs to the Lord.

• Keep arms open to the repentant; let forgiveness flow freely.

• Use Spirit-led restraint when truth or purity is at stake, always aiming for restoration.