How should we handle a "divisive person" according to Titus 3:10? Setting the Scene Titus wrote to a young pastor shepherding believers on Crete—a place already known for quarrelsome habits (Titus 1:12). Paul’s counsel shows how seriously the Lord takes unity and how firmly we must act when someone threatens it. The Key Verse Titus 3:10: “Reject a divisive man after a first and second admonition.” Why Divisiveness Matters • Unity reflects Christ’s character to the world (John 17:20-23). • Discord distorts the gospel message (Philippians 2:14-16). • God calls strife “works of the flesh” that endanger souls (Galatians 5:19-21). Step-by-Step Response 1. Offer a First Admonition • Speak privately and graciously (Matthew 18:15). • State the concern clearly, using Scripture—not opinions—as the plumb line. • Aim for repentance and restoration, not winning an argument. 2. Give a Second Admonition • If the person repeats divisive behavior, address it again—firmly yet lovingly (Galatians 6:1). • Include witnesses if needed for clarity and accountability (Matthew 18:16). • Emphasize the danger of continuing in strife (James 3:16). 3. Reject if Unrepentant • “Have nothing to do with them” (Romans 16:17) once both warnings are ignored. • This is not cruelty; it protects the flock and may awaken the offender to repent (2 Thessalonians 3:14-15). • Maintain a prayerful attitude, ready to restore if genuine change appears (2 Corinthians 2:6-8). Supporting Scriptures • Proverbs 6:16-19—God hates one “who sows discord among brothers.” • 1 Corinthians 1:10—“That there may be no divisions among you.” • Ephesians 4:3—“Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” Guarding Your Own Heart • Examine motives before confronting (Psalm 139:23-24). • Speak truth in love, not frustration (Ephesians 4:15). • Avoid gossip; keep the circle of knowledge as small as possible (Proverbs 17:9). • Stay anchored in the Word—the standard is God’s truth, not personal preference. Practical Takeaways • Unity is precious; protect it diligently. • Warnings must be clear, scriptural, and delivered in love. • Persistent divisiveness requires separation for the health of the body. • Even in rejection, remain hopeful for repentance and restoration. Living It Out Stand firm on God’s literal Word, follow the steps He lays out, and trust that His design for church discipline—applied humbly and faithfully—will both preserve unity and honor Christ. |
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