What practical steps can you take to reconcile with someone today? Setting the Scene: Jesus’ Priority on Reconciliation “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you,” (Matthew 5:23). Jesus places reconciliation ahead of worship because a fractured relationship contradicts the very offering of love we bring to God. Face the Heart Issue First • Accept that unresolved conflict offends God as much as it hurts people. • Believe that Jesus’ words are literal, urgent, and non-negotiable. • Recognize that delaying reconciliation blocks fellowship with the Father (see 1 John 4:20). Practical Steps for Immediate Action 1. Examine Yourself • Ask the Spirit to reveal who might “have something against you” (Psalm 139:23-24). • Write the name down; clarity fuels action. 2. Initiate Contact Today • Phone, text, or knock on a door—speed matters (Ephesians 4:26-27). • Keep the focus on repairing, not debating. 3. Approach with Humility • Remember Jesus left heaven to reach you (Philippians 2:5-8). • Choose words that disarm: “I was wrong,” “I hurt you,” “Please forgive me.” 4. Listen Actively • Resist self-defense; allow the other person to speak fully (James 1:19). • Affirm their feelings even if you disagree with every detail. 5. Confess Specifically • Name the offense without excuses (Proverbs 28:13). • Avoid vague apologies; detail communicates sincerity. 6. Offer Restitution Where Possible • Zacchaeus restored fourfold (Luke 19:8); make tangible amends if loss occurred. 7. Ask for Forgiveness • A direct “Will you forgive me?” grants the other person the dignity of response. 8. Seal the Peace • Pray together if they are willing (James 5:16). • Discuss boundaries or next steps to prevent repeating the hurt. 9. Return to Worship • Once reconciliation is pursued in good faith, present your “gift” with clean hands (Matthew 5:24). Supporting Scriptures That Strengthen This Call • Matthew 5:9—“Blessed are the peacemakers…” • Romans 12:18—“If it is possible… live at peace with everyone.” • Colossians 3:13—“Bear with one another and forgive any complaint…” • Hebrews 12:14—“Pursue peace with everyone…” Cautions and Encouragements • Not every attempt ends in full harmony; obedience is still counted (Romans 12:18). • Ongoing bitterness invites the enemy (Ephesians 4:27). • Reconciliation often opens surprising doors for gospel witness (2 Corinthians 5:18-19). Take the first step before the day ends; Jesus has already cleared the path. |
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