What can we learn from Diotrephes' behavior about leadership in the church? The Text in View “I wrote to the church, but Diotrephes, who loves to be first, does not acknowledge us.” (3 John 1:9) Snapshot of Diotrephes’ Behavior • Craved the spotlight: “loves to be first.” • Rejected apostolic authority: “does not acknowledge us.” • Slandered the brethren (v. 10). • Withheld hospitality from traveling ministers (v. 10). • Excommunicated members who showed support for those ministers (v. 10). Symptoms of Unhealthy Church Leadership • Pride that displaces Christ as the true Head (Proverbs 16:18; Colossians 1:18). • Isolation from accountability—refusing counsel or correction (Proverbs 11:14). • Control through fear and exclusion (3 John 1:10). • Weaponized speech: “spreading malicious gossip” (James 3:6). • Neglect of hospitality and generosity (1 Peter 4:9). Lessons for Every Leader and Congregation 1. Pursue Humility – “Whoever wants to become great among you shall be your servant.” (Mark 10:43–44) – Leadership is stewardship, not entitlement (1 Peter 5:3). 2. Submit to Biblical Authority – The apostles’ teaching still governs the church through Scripture (Acts 2:42; 2 Timothy 3:16–17). – Rejecting that authority leads to doctrinal drift and division. 3. Practice Gospel Hospitality – Gaius welcomed the brothers (3 John 1:5–8); Diotrephes blocked them. – Welcoming fellow workers advances the truth and displays love (Hebrews 13:2). 4. Guard the Tongue – “Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths” (Ephesians 4:29). – Slander undermines unity and blurs the church’s witness. 5. Maintain Accountability Structures – Plural eldership and mutual submission help prevent power grabs (Acts 14:23; Titus 1:5–9). – “Obey your leaders and submit to them” (Hebrews 13:17) works healthily only when leaders themselves submit to Christ and His Word. 6. Model What Is Good – John’s charge: “Beloved, do not imitate what is evil but what is good.” (3 John 1:11) – Demetrius (v. 12) exemplified credibility and godly character. Guardrails for Today’s Church • Choose leaders who meet 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1 qualifications. • Foster an environment where questions and corrections are welcomed. • Keep Christ central in preaching, worship, and decision-making (Colossians 1:18). • Encourage transparent finances and open communication. Encouragement for the Body God exposes Diotrephes-like attitudes so the church can repent, heal, and flourish. By embracing humility, accountability, and brotherly love, leaders and members alike protect the testimony of Christ and advance His gospel together. |
    |