How does Leviticus 18:19 relate to maintaining holiness in relationships? Setting the Text “ ‘You must not approach a woman to have sexual relations with her during her uncleanness of her menstrual period.’ ” (Leviticus 18:19) Why This Matters for Holiness • Leviticus 18 is a holiness code, introduced by: “You shall be holy, for I the LORD your God am holy” (cf. Leviticus 19:2). • Sexual conduct is treated as worship-related; impurity affects fellowship with God (Leviticus 15:31). • The verse draws a boundary that teaches reverence for God-given life (symbolized by blood) and respect for the created order. Key Themes Behind the Command 1. Purity of Blood – Blood represents life (Leviticus 17:11). – Contact with menstrual blood rendered one ceremonially unclean (Leviticus 15:19-24); abstaining honored God’s life-giving design. 2. Self-Control and Restraint – Holiness involves saying no to legitimate appetites at certain times (cf. Titus 2:11-12). – Restraint guards against treating another person as an object for gratification. 3. Covenant Respect – Marriage is a covenant picture of God’s covenant with His people (Ephesians 5:25-32). – Honoring God-set limits keeps that picture pure and undefiled (Hebrews 13:4). 4. Protection for the Vulnerable – Ancient women were physically weakened during menstruation; the law provided rest and dignity. – Modern love likewise “does not seek its own” (1 Corinthians 13:5). Links to Other Scriptures • Leviticus 20:18 – violation brought guilt on both partners. • Ezekiel 18:6 – righteous man “does not approach a menstruating woman.” • Acts 15:20 – Gentile believers urged to avoid sexual immorality and blood. • 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 – sanctification means abstaining from sexual impurity; God “did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness.” Principles for Relationships Today • Honor God’s timing and boundaries in intimacy. • Practice mutual respect that values the other’s health and comfort. • Let love be guided by holiness, not impulse. • Remember that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Practical Applications – Talk openly with your spouse about physical cycles and comfort levels. – Use seasons of abstinence for prayer and deeper emotional connection (cf. 1 Corinthians 7:5). – Teach children that God’s boundaries are good gifts, not burdens. – Evaluate entertainment and media; refuse anything that normalizes boundary-breaking. Guardrails That Preserve Purity • Accountability with trusted believers. • Regular Scripture intake to renew the mind (Psalm 119:9,11). • Immediate confession and repentance when convicted (1 John 1:9). • Cultivating gratitude for God’s design rather than resenting limits. Christ, the Fulfillment of Holiness Jesus shed His own blood to cleanse ours (Hebrews 9:14). Because He has made us clean, we pursue relational holiness not to earn favor but to express love for the One who first loved us (John 14:15). |