How can Proverbs 11:22 guide us in choosing role models or friends? The Picture Painted in Proverbs 11:22 “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion.” • A pig, no matter how ornate the jewelry, remains a pig—unclean, stubborn, rooted in the mud. • Beauty is acknowledged as real, but it is rendered meaningless when coupled with moral poverty. • Discretion (moral judgment, self-restraint, godly wisdom) is placed above outward attractiveness. • The verse speaks literally and vividly: without discretion, any outer shine is wasted and even grotesque. What Makes a Worthy Example • Inner character outshines appearance (1 Samuel 16:7). • Discretion springs from the fear of the LORD (Proverbs 9:10). • Faithfulness, kindness, humility, and truth are the core attributes to look for (Galatians 5:22-23; Micah 6:8). Evaluating Potential Role Models Look for: – Consistency between words and actions (Matthew 7:17-20). – A pattern of honoring Christ privately and publicly (Colossians 3:17). – Willingness to submit to Scripture and correction (Proverbs 12:1). – Service to others before self (Philippians 2:3-5). Avoid: – Charm without conviction (Proverbs 31:30). – Talent celebrated over integrity (Proverbs 19:1). – Influence that normalizes sin (1 Corinthians 15:33). Choosing Friends Who Build Us Up • Walk with the wise and become wise (Proverbs 13:20). • Seek companions who stir up love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24). • Align with those who hate what is evil and cling to what is good (Romans 12:9). • Make Psalm 119:63 your filter: “I am a friend to all who fear You, to those who keep Your precepts.” Practical Takeaways for Today • Refuse to be dazzled by image; demand depth. • Examine social media follows: do their lifestyles reflect biblical discretion? • In dating, leadership, or mentorship, insist on proven godliness before gifting. • Cultivate your own discretion; become the kind of friend others should choose. |
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