How does self-control relate to the teachings in Proverbs 23:20? Proverbs 23:20 in Focus “Do not join those who drink too much wine or gorge themselves on meat.” What the Verse Teaches about Self-Control • The command “Do not join” calls for a deliberate choice to stay separate from excess. • Two appetites—wine and food—serve as examples of desires that can dominate when unchecked. • Self-control is presented as a guardrail, keeping the believer from patterns that dull the mind and weaken the body. Why Self-Control Matters • Protects witness: A life unruled by cravings points others to Christ (1 Peter 2:12). • Preserves clarity: Drunkenness and gluttony blur spiritual perception (Proverbs 23:29-35). • Honors the body: We are stewards of the “temple of the Holy Spirit” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). • Aligns with wisdom: Proverbs consistently links self-discipline with understanding (Proverbs 12:1). Self-Control in the Larger Biblical Picture • Fruit of the Spirit: “...self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23). • Athletic metaphor: “Everyone who competes exercises self-control in all things” (1 Corinthians 9:25). • Grace-trained living: Grace teaches us “to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives” (Titus 2:11-12). • Growth in character: “Make every effort to add… self-control” (2 Peter 1:5-6). Practical Ways to Cultivate Self-Control 1. Identify triggers—times, places, or people that encourage excess. 2. Set godly boundaries—portion sizes, spending limits, media curfews. 3. Invite accountability—trusted believers who can ask hard questions. 4. Feed the Spirit—daily Scripture, prayer, worship; the Spirit empowers obedience. 5. Celebrate small victories—thanking God reinforces patterns of restraint. Living Out Proverbs 23:20 Today • Choose fellowship marked by moderation rather than indulgence. • Plan meals and celebrations that honor God without excess. • Remember that saying “no” to the flesh frees you to say “yes” to deeper joy in Christ. |