How can we discern flattery versus genuine praise in our daily interactions? Setting the Scene: Flattery in Luke 20:21 “Teacher, we know that You speak and teach what is right and that You do not show partiality, but teach the way of God in truth.” (Luke 20:21) • These words sound sincere, yet they come from spies sent to trap Jesus. • Their polished compliments hid malicious motives—the classic picture of flattery. Why Flattery Is Dangerous • It camouflages deceit (Psalm 12:2–3; Proverbs 29:5). • It inflates pride, drawing our focus off God (Proverbs 26:28; Galatians 1:10). • It can manipulate decisions, as the spies hoped to do with Jesus. Spotting the Subtle Signs 1. Motive Check • Is the speaker seeking personal advantage? (Luke 20:20; 1 Thessalonians 2:5) • Do the words appear when they need something from you? 2. Consistency Test • Do their actions echo their praise? “By their fruit you will recognize them.” (Matthew 7:16) • Proverbs 27:6 reminds us that a true friend’s rebuke can be trusted; flatterers seldom offer constructive feedback. 3. Content Filter • Genuine praise often points to God’s grace at work, not merely to human greatness (Romans 12:3; 1 Corinthians 4:7). • Flattery exaggerates or omits truth. Listen for over-the-top superlatives that leave no room for imperfection. 4. Heart Response • Does the praise spark humility, gratitude, and a desire to honor Christ? • Or does it stir self-exaltation and independence from God? (James 4:6) Practical Heart Checks When Praise Comes Your Way • Immediately thank the Lord in your heart: every good gift is from Him (James 1:17). • Ask, “What about Christ’s work is being recognized here?” Redirect the credit aloud if possible. • Invite accountability: share the compliment with a trusted believer who will keep you grounded (Proverbs 27:17). Responding Wisely to Flattery • Guard speech with grace and truth (Colossians 4:6). • If motives seem mixed, respond kindly yet briefly—no need to nourish manipulation. • Shift the conversation toward God’s faithfulness or the team’s effort, deflating undue focus on self. Cultivating a Truth-Filled Community • Practice sincere affirmation: specific, honest, God-centered (Philippians 1:3–5). • Welcome loving correction; it strengthens trust and reduces the soil where flattery grows (Proverbs 27:5). • Pray for discernment daily, letting “the word of Christ dwell richly” (Colossians 3:16) so that praise and correction alike drive us closer to Him. |