Abusing My Wife
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Definition and Context:
Abusing one's wife refers to the mistreatment, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, of a spouse within the marital relationship. The Bible addresses the sanctity of marriage and the responsibilities of spouses towards each other, emphasizing love, respect, and mutual care.

Biblical Principles on Marriage:
The Bible presents marriage as a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, instituted by God. In Genesis 2:24 , it is written, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." This union is characterized by mutual respect and love.

Husbands' Responsibilities:
The New Testament provides specific instructions for husbands in their treatment of their wives. Ephesians 5:25 states, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her." This verse underscores the sacrificial and selfless nature of a husband's love, modeled after Christ's love for the church.

In 1 Peter 3:7 , husbands are further instructed: "Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered." This passage highlights the importance of understanding, respect, and honor in the marital relationship.

Condemnation of Abuse:
The Bible does not condone any form of abuse. The principles of love, kindness, and respect are antithetical to abusive behavior. Colossians 3:19 advises, "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." This directive explicitly warns against harshness, which can be interpreted as any form of abuse.

General Biblical Teachings Against Violence and Abuse:
The Bible consistently speaks against violence and mistreatment of others. In Psalm 11:5 , it is written, "The LORD tests the righteous and the wicked; His soul hates the lover of violence." This verse reflects God's disdain for violence, which would include domestic abuse.

Proverbs 3:31 advises, "Do not envy a violent man or choose any of his ways," further emphasizing the rejection of violence as a lifestyle or behavior.

The Call to Love and Respect:
The overarching biblical command is to love one another. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 , love is described as patient, kind, and not easily angered. These attributes are essential in a healthy marital relationship and stand in stark contrast to abusive behavior.

Support and Restoration:
While the Bible calls for love and respect within marriage, it also provides a framework for addressing sin and seeking restoration. Matthew 18:15-17 outlines a process for addressing wrongdoing within the community of believers, which can be applied to situations of abuse, emphasizing the need for accountability and reconciliation.

Conclusion:
The Bible's teachings on marriage and interpersonal relationships clearly oppose any form of abuse. The call for husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church sets a high standard of selfless, sacrificial love that leaves no room for abusive behavior.
Topical Bible Verses
Ephesians 5:25-28
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
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Galatians 3:28
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
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Library

On the Fall
... to Adam, You lay the blame upon your wife; then I ... of God; able to use this world
without abusing it; able to ... My life, my real human life, does not depend on my ...
/.../kingsley/the good news of god/sermon xxxvi on the fall.htm

The Doctrine of Paul Concerning virginity Explained.
... virgins, I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as ... seek not a
wife. ... of the flesh, not making your marriage an occasion for abusing your own ...
/.../chapter xiii the doctrine of paul.htm

Appeal to the Christian Women of the South
... 5. If the servant shall plainly say, I love my master, my wife, and my children;
I will not go out free; then his master shall bring him unto the Judges, and ...
/.../an appeal to the christian women of the south/appeal to the christian women.htm

The Perpetual virginity of Blessed Mary.
... The unhappy wife must either take pleasure in them, and perish, or be displeased ...
for you, you will turn to disparaging my life and abusing my character (it is ...
/.../jerome/the principal works of st jerome/the perpetual virginity of blessed.htm

Carey's Immediate Influence in Great Britain and America
... he himself had seen the missionary on a tub in the streets of Calcutta haranguing
the mob and abusing the religion ... My wife has a small carriage drawn by a man. ...
/.../smith/the life of william carey/chapter xiii careys immediate influence.htm

Letter ccxx. (AD 427. )
... and may so use the world, as not abusing it, so ... good things,"in all these duties
your wife is not ... These things I have written, my dearly beloved son, at the ...
/.../augustine/the confessions and letters of st/letter ccxx a d 427.htm

The Veil of Veronica.
... confront the enraged multitude; she was the wife of Sirach ... they revenged themselves
by striking and abusing him, while ... all with a happy heart, for my Lord has ...
/.../the dolorous passion of our lord jesus christ/chapter xxxiv the veil of.htm

Jesus Condemned to be Crucified.
... was so overcome with anguish, and my sufferings were ... the iniquitous sentence, I saw
his wife, Claudia Procles ... and he joined the archers in abusing and insulting ...
/.../chapter xxix jesus condemned to.htm

To the High and Mighty Prince Charles, Prince of Wales.
... devil scoffing religion, [6] and blasphemously abusing phrases of ... up unto the Most
High my humblest prayers ... Cary, Knight, and the religious Lady Gary, his wife. ...
//christianbookshelf.org/bayly/the practice of piety/to the high and mighty.htm

At First God Deemed it Sufficient to Inscribe the Natural Law, or ...
... the desires of the Jews, who were abusing their liberty ... to Moses in Exodus: "I will
send forth My angel before ... of divorcement, and to send away a wife?" He said ...
/.../irenaeus/against heresies/chapter xv at first god deemed.htm

Resources
Who was Diotrephes in the Bible? | GotQuestions.org

I am a victim of abuse. Why do I feel guilty? | GotQuestions.org

What does the Bible say about emotional abuse? | GotQuestions.org

Abusing: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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