Dating Age
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The concept of "dating age" is not explicitly addressed in the Bible, as the cultural context of biblical times differed significantly from modern practices of dating and courtship. However, principles regarding relationships, maturity, and marriage can be gleaned from various passages, providing guidance for believers seeking to understand a biblical perspective on the appropriate age and context for dating.

Biblical Context of Marriage and Courtship

In biblical times, marriages were often arranged by families, and the concept of dating as understood today did not exist. The focus was on the covenant of marriage rather than the process of dating. For instance, in Genesis 24, Abraham's servant seeks a wife for Isaac, emphasizing family involvement and divine guidance in the selection of a spouse.

Maturity and Readiness

The Bible emphasizes maturity and readiness for marriage, which can inform the appropriate age for dating. In 1 Corinthians 13:11 , Paul writes, "When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me." This passage highlights the importance of maturity in making significant life decisions, including those related to relationships.

Purity and Intentions

The Bible calls believers to maintain purity in relationships. In 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 , Paul instructs, "For it is God’s will that you should be holy: You must abstain from sexual immorality; each of you must know how to control his own body in holiness and honor." This underscores the importance of approaching dating with pure intentions and self-control, regardless of age.

Parental Guidance and Wisdom

Scripture often emphasizes the role of parental guidance and wisdom in the lives of young people. Proverbs 1:8-9 advises, "Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction, and do not forsake the teaching of your mother. For they are a garland of grace on your head and a pendant around your neck." This suggests that young people should seek and heed the counsel of their parents or guardians when considering dating.

Cultural and Historical Considerations

While the Bible does not specify a particular age for dating, cultural and historical contexts can provide insight. In ancient Israel, young women were often betrothed in their early to mid-teens, while young men were typically older, having established some level of maturity and ability to provide for a family. This historical context reflects the importance of readiness and responsibility in entering a relationship.

Seeking God’s Will

Ultimately, the Bible encourages believers to seek God's will in all aspects of life, including relationships. Proverbs 3:5-6 states, "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight." This passage encourages individuals to rely on God's guidance and wisdom when considering the appropriate time and context for dating.

In summary, while the Bible does not provide a specific "dating age," it offers principles of maturity, purity, parental guidance, and seeking God's will that can help believers navigate the complexities of relationships in a manner that honors God.
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Genesis 6:1-22
And it came to pass, when men began to multiply on the face of the earth, and daughters were born to them,
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Letter cxcix. Canonica Secunda.
... And we admit professions dating from the age of full intelligence. [2697] For it
is not right in such cases to admit the words of mere children. ...
/.../basil/basil letters and select works/letter cxcix canonica secunda.htm

Introductory Note to Gregory Thaumaturgus.
... to Eusebius, I suppose he must have been far enough under fifty, the age prescribed
by the ... we may with some confidence set his birth at ad205, dating back from ...
/.../a declaration of faith/introductory note to gregory thaumaturgus.htm

Sacred Times --The Lord's Day.
... in our physical and moral nature, and is as old as man, dating, like marriage ... Hence,
the first day was already in the apostolic age honorably designated as "the ...
/.../history of the christian church volume i/section 57 sacred timesthe lords.htm

The Synagogue.
... They were no doubt of gradual growth, some dating from the Maccabean struggles,
some ... was no proper priesthood outside of Jerusalem, any Jew of age might get up ...
/.../schaff/history of the christian church volume i/section 51 the synagogue.htm

Chronology of the Life of Christ
... to think that Luke was really doubtful what was the age of Jesus, whether
twenty-eight or thirty-two. His elaborately careful and precise dating, 3:1, 2, ...
/.../ramsay/was christ born in bethlehem/chapter 10 chronology of the.htm

Introduction to the Hex??meron.
... the Scythian monk of the 6th C. to whom is due our custom of dating from the ... the
Book of Genesis in the light of the scientific knowledge of his age, and in ...
/.../basil/basil letters and select works/introduction to the hexaemeron.htm

The Original Text and Its History.
... Crimea of inscriptions on the tombs of Caraite Jews, some of them dating back, it ...
Though their date may be posterior to the age of the Talmudists (between 200 ...
/.../barrows/companion to the bible/chapter xiv the original text.htm

The Upbringing of Jewish Children
... As we shall show in the sequel, six or seven was the age at which a ... book of Exodus,
the substance of which is older than the Mishnah itself, dating from the ...
/.../edersheim/sketches of jewish social life/chapter 7 the upbringing of.htm

Chapter v
... Total age. ... Yet, strange to say, the only reliable chronology which we have, which
actually purports to be an adequate chronology dating back to Creation, is ...
//christianbookshelf.org/leupold/exposition of genesis volume 1/chapter v.htm

The Syrian Enrollment in 8 Bc
... the statement, which a citizen of a small Italian town made about his age; and there ...
It was not an Imperial epoch; it was merely used in dating some documents ...
/.../ramsay/was christ born in bethlehem/chapter 8 the syrian enrollment.htm

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