Dating While Separated
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In the context of Christian teachings, the topic of dating while separated is a complex issue that requires careful consideration of biblical principles regarding marriage, separation, and divorce. The Bible provides guidance on the sanctity of marriage and the importance of fidelity, which are crucial when discussing the appropriateness of dating during a period of separation.

Marriage as a Covenant

Marriage is depicted in the Bible as a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, instituted by God. Genesis 2:24 states, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." This union is intended to be lifelong and exclusive, reflecting the relationship between Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:31-32).

Separation and Reconciliation

The Bible acknowledges that marital difficulties may arise, leading to separation. However, the emphasis is on reconciliation rather than dissolution. In 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 , Paul advises, "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." This passage underscores the importance of seeking reconciliation and maintaining the marital bond.

Adultery and Faithfulness

The Bible is clear about the sin of adultery and the call to remain faithful to one's spouse. In Matthew 19:9 , Jesus states, "And I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." This teaching highlights the seriousness of marital vows and the expectation of fidelity, even during times of separation.

The Role of Divorce

While the Bible permits divorce in certain circumstances, such as sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9), it is not encouraged. Malachi 2:16 expresses God's disdain for divorce: "For I hate divorce, says the LORD, the God of Israel." The preference is always for healing and restoration of the marriage relationship.

Implications for Dating While Separated

Given the biblical emphasis on marriage as a lifelong covenant, dating while separated can be seen as problematic. It may undermine efforts toward reconciliation and could be perceived as a breach of marital fidelity. The focus should remain on resolving marital issues and seeking God's guidance for the future of the relationship.

Seeking Godly Counsel

In situations of separation, it is advisable to seek godly counsel from church leaders or Christian marriage counselors. Proverbs 11:14 states, "Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety." Wise counsel can provide support and direction in navigating the complexities of separation and the potential for reconciliation.

Prayer and Discernment

Prayer and discernment are essential when considering actions during a separation. Philippians 4:6-7 encourages believers, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Seeking God's will through prayer can provide clarity and peace in making decisions that honor Him and the marriage covenant.
Topical Bible Verses
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
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1 Corinthians 7:1-40
Now concerning the things whereof you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
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1 Corinthians 7:2
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
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Matthew 5:28
But I say to you, That whoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.
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The Statements of Iren??us in Regard to the Divine Scriptures.
... the Scriptures by their interpretation, he separated them from ... in a spurious letter
(probably dating from the ... calls the king simply Ptolemy, while Clement of ...
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Letter cxcix. Canonica Secunda.
... And we admit professions dating from the age of full ... the fourth to standing with
the people, while they are ... not to be received until he have separated from her ...
/.../basil/basil letters and select works/letter cxcix canonica secunda.htm

The Setting
... Christianity that flourished in two widely separated centers, Edessa ... While the extremes
of both positions were renounced ... For the early dating of this work, see ...
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The Death and the Raising of Lazarus - the Question of Miracles ...
... of the Sanhedrists against Christ took place, while He rested ... are those in or near
Jerusalem, dating from the ... procession the sexes had been separated, and the ...
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The Synagogue at Nazareth - Synagogue-Worship and Arrangements.
... and women sat in opposite aisles, separated by a ... the practice of leading Rabbis,
probably dating from very ... the priests turned towards the people, while he who ...
/.../the life and times of jesus the messiah/chapter x the synagogue at.htm

The Third Day in Passion-Week - the Events of that Day - the ...
... the false Messiah, issued a coinage dating from the ... He had spoken in the Porches,
and, while the crowd ... Lord afterwards spoke, that the two cannot be separated. ...
/.../edersheim/the life and times of jesus the messiah/chapter iii the third day.htm

The Theology of St. Hilary of Poitiers.
... It was on behalf of mankind that this great sacrifice was made by the Son.
While it separated Him from the Father, it united Him to men. ...
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The Canon.
... While, therefore, several of these early fathers were led ... Protestants; the apocryphal
books were separated from the ... and the Alexandrian Bibles, dating from the ...
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Traditionalism, Its Origin, Character, and Literature - the ...
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be entirely separated from it. ... Halakhah in only fourteen places; while in the ...
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The New Testament Canon in the First Three Centuries.
... mixed or spurious of Origen are vaguely separated by Eusebius ... gospel to be read in
the churches; while in another ... tried to prove the latter such, dating them AD ...
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Resources
I am engaged to and living with an unbeliever. I am convicted about this. What should I do? | GotQuestions.org

What is the Christian view of engagement? | GotQuestions.org

What is Adlerian therapy (or Individual Psychology), and is it biblical? | GotQuestions.org

Engaged: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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