Emotional Affair
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An emotional affair is a relationship where an individual forms a deep emotional connection with someone other than their spouse, which can undermine the marital bond. While the Bible does not explicitly mention "emotional affairs," it provides principles that address the sanctity of marriage and the importance of guarding one's heart and mind.

Biblical Principles on Marriage and Fidelity

The Bible upholds marriage as a sacred covenant between a man and a woman. Genesis 2:24 states, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." This union is intended to be exclusive and intimate, both physically and emotionally.

In the New Testament, Jesus reinforces the sanctity of marriage in Matthew 19:4-6 : "Haven’t you read... that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

Guarding the Heart

The Bible emphasizes the importance of guarding one's heart, as it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23 advises, "Guard your heart with all diligence, for from it flow springs of life." Emotional affairs often begin with seemingly innocent interactions that gradually develop into deeper emotional connections, potentially leading to a breach of marital trust.

Adultery of the Heart

Jesus addresses the issue of adultery of the heart in Matthew 5:27-28 : "You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." While this passage specifically mentions lust, it underscores the broader principle that unfaithfulness begins in the heart and mind.

Emotional Intimacy and Boundaries

The Bible encourages believers to maintain appropriate boundaries in relationships. 1 Thessalonians 5:22 instructs, "Abstain from every form of evil." Emotional affairs can be seen as a form of unfaithfulness that violates the exclusivity of the marital relationship, even if physical adultery has not occurred.

Restoration and Repentance

For those who find themselves in an emotional affair, the Bible offers a path to restoration through repentance and reconciliation. 1 John 1:9 assures, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Seeking forgiveness from God and one's spouse is essential for healing and restoring the marital relationship.

Conclusion

While the Bible does not specifically address emotional affairs, its teachings on marriage, fidelity, and the condition of the heart provide clear guidance for maintaining the integrity of the marital bond. Believers are called to honor their marriage vows and to cultivate emotional intimacy exclusively within the marriage relationship.
Topical Bible Verses
Matthew 5:28
But I say to you, That whoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.
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Jeremiah 17:9
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
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1 Corinthians 13:1-13
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
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Matthew 5:32
But I say to you, That whoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery: and whoever shall marry her that is divorced commits adultery.
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Matthew 5:27-28
You have heard that it was said by them of old time, You shall not commit adultery:
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Library

On Smart Novelists and the Smart Set
... primary merits of the Bow Bells Novelettes, that it is my present affair to speak ...
the heart, they always mean the pangs and disappointments of the emotional life ...
//christianbookshelf.org/chesterton/heretics/xv on smart novelists and.htm

Man's True Treasure in God
... We have no merely mystical or emotional possession of God to preach. ... punishment of
sin, and so makes religion a kind of fire insurance, is a very poor affair. ...
/.../maclaren/expositions of holy scripture j/mans true treasure in god.htm

Sebastian Franck: an Apostle of Inward Religion
... He puts as little value on ecstasies and emotional vapourings as he does on ... told
as though it were an external happening, it is in reality an internal affair. ...
/.../chapter iv sebastian franck an.htm

The Approbation of Goodness is not the Love of It.
... But this remorse is purely an affair of the conscience, and the heart has no ... in the
universe is to be found in those wretched beings whose emotional and active ...
/.../shedd/sermons to the natural man/the approbation of goodness is.htm

A Practical Discourse on Some Principles of Hymn-Singing
... use of such music is to heighten emotion, then, this emotional quality being the ...
plumes and later additions it is really an almost worthless affair, the true ...
/.../a practical discourse on some.htm

Away in Paris, a Vast Concourse of People were Assembled Round an ...
... by the solemnity of the scene, as well as by their own emotional excitement, more ...
Anyway, this Marguerite went mad on her love- affair,"and we called her 'La ...
//christianbookshelf.org/corelli/the master-christian/xxxii away in paris a.htm

Mr. HG Wells and the Giants
... that to the man who did it, the splitting of the grain is the great affair, and
the ... To use a fine phrase for emotional sanity, was his heart in the right place ...
//christianbookshelf.org/chesterton/heretics/v mr h g wells and.htm

Old Revival Hymns.
... B flat minor, excessively plaintive, and likely to sadden an emotional singer or ...
Maxim was eccentric, but the tradition that an unfortunate affair of the heart ...
/.../brown/the story of the hymns and tunes/chapter vii old revival hymns.htm

Introduction
... energy, of inspirational insights, of charismatic bestowals, and of profound emotional
fervour was ... of nature; it is, in short, so much an {xix} affair of man's ...
/.../jones/spiritual reformers in the 16th and 17th centuries/introduction.htm

Jacob Boehme's Influence in England
... The first one is that religion is an inward affair. ... 64] She was a sincere, pure-minded
woman, of intense devotion, but she was a strongly emotional type of ...
/.../chapter xii jacob boehmes influence.htm

Resources
What does it mean to love Jesus? | GotQuestions.org

What is divine impassibility? | GotQuestions.org

Does God have emotions? | GotQuestions.org

Emotion: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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