Finding a Mate
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Introduction

The topic of finding a mate is addressed throughout the Bible, offering guidance and principles for those seeking a life partner. The Scriptures provide insights into the qualities to look for in a spouse, the importance of shared faith, and the role of divine guidance in the process of choosing a mate.

Biblical Principles

1. Divine Institution of Marriage: Marriage is established by God as a sacred union between a man and a woman. In Genesis 2:24 , it is written, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." This foundational principle underscores the significance of marriage in God's design.

2. Qualities of a Godly Spouse: The Bible emphasizes the importance of character and faith in choosing a mate. Proverbs 31:10 describes a virtuous woman: "A wife of noble character, who can find? She is far more precious than rubies." Similarly, 1 Peter 3:7 instructs husbands to honor their wives, recognizing them as co-heirs of the grace of life.

3. Shared Faith: A common theme in Scripture is the importance of shared faith in a marriage. 2 Corinthians 6:14 advises, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership can righteousness have with wickedness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?" This verse highlights the importance of spiritual unity in a marital relationship.

4. Seeking God's Guidance: The Bible encourages believers to seek God's guidance in all aspects of life, including the choice of a mate. Proverbs 3:5-6 states, "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight." Prayer and reliance on God's wisdom are essential in the process of finding a spouse.

5. Love and Commitment: Love is a central theme in the biblical understanding of marriage. Ephesians 5:25 instructs, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her." This sacrificial love is the model for marital relationships, emphasizing commitment and selflessness.

Examples from Scripture

1. Isaac and Rebekah: The account of Isaac and Rebekah in Genesis 24 illustrates the role of divine providence in finding a mate. Abraham's servant prayed for guidance, and God led him to Rebekah, who became Isaac's wife. This narrative highlights the importance of prayer and trust in God's plan.

2. Ruth and Boaz: The book of Ruth provides an example of loyalty, integrity, and divine orchestration in the union of Ruth and Boaz. Ruth's commitment to Naomi and her faithfulness were key factors in her eventual marriage to Boaz, a man of noble character.

3. Mary and Joseph: The relationship between Mary and Joseph, the earthly parents of Jesus, exemplifies obedience to God's will and mutual respect. Despite the challenges they faced, their faith and commitment to God's plan were paramount.

Conclusion

The Bible offers timeless principles and examples for those seeking a mate, emphasizing the importance of character, shared faith, and reliance on God's guidance. Through prayer, discernment, and adherence to biblical values, believers are encouraged to seek a spouse who aligns with God's design for marriage.
Topical Bible Verses
Proverbs 18:22
Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the LORD.
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James 1:5
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that gives to all men liberally, and upbraides not; and it shall be given him.
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Hebrews 13:4
Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
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Matthew 7:7
Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find; knock, and it shall be opened to you:
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Luke 16:18
Whoever puts away his wife, and marries another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her that is put away from her husband commits adultery.
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Matthew 19:3-9
The Pharisees also came to him, tempting him, and saying to him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
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Library

How God is Jealous of Us.
... If ever you have taken notice, Theotimus, you will have seen that this mild bird,
returning from his flight, and finding his mate amongst his companions, is ...
/.../francis/treatise on the love of god/chapter xiii how god is.htm

Letter ii. Basil to Gregory.
... and rebellious impulses, and hopeless attachments; he who has found his mate is
encompassed ... The study of inspired Scripture is the chief way of finding our duty ...
/.../basil/basil letters and select works/letter ii basil to gregory.htm

Thy Cheeks are Comely as a Turtle Dove's; Thy Neck as Jewels.
... of a pair dies, the other ever after remains single, without seeking another mate. ...
to a solitude so much the more complete, in that, not finding the Bridegroom ...
/.../guyon/song of songs of solomon/9 thy cheeks are comely.htm

Joseph
... as these, if we do not ask them out of any carping, fault-finding spirit, trying ...
certain birds, like the dove and the eagle, who keep the same mate year after ...
/.../kingsley/the gospel of the pentateuch/sermon vii joseph.htm

That Even the Fierceness of War and all the Disquietude of Men ...
... arose not from a desire to do mischief, but from the necessity of finding a living ...
solitary as he is when circling over his prey, does not seek a mate, build a ...
/.../augustine/city of god/chapter 12 that even the fierceness.htm

Of Two Other Degrees of Greater Perfection, by which we May Love ...
... Providence; she is called the one dove, for whom the love of her mate is all ... So that
finding God in creatures, and creatures in God, they love God, not the ...
/.../francis/treatise on the love of god/chapter v of two other.htm

1872-1874. Letter from Rev. AMW Christopher --Letter from Gulf of ...
... of widowed mothers, who say they are willing to work, but finding none of ... glancing
over the books of photographs and recognising some friend or mate with whom ...
//christianbookshelf.org/lowe/gods answers/chapter v 1872-1874 letter from.htm

The Creation of Fowl and Water Animals.
... 6. It is said that the turtle-dove, once separated from her mate, does not ... It is
the difficulty of finding food which has made her repulse the offspring she ...
/.../basil/basil letters and select works/homily viii the creation of.htm

The Domestic Relation.
... of a married life, but enter in from selfish desires, then finding it attended ... Birds
in springtime mate each other, 'Tis a law decreed above; For the sake of ...
/.../orr/the gospel day /chapter xiii the domestic relation.htm

The Mothering Heart
... too much for the merry 'drunk.' He made straight for his old mate, embraced him ... of
childhood when the Adjutant, revisiting an old corps and finding them doing ...
/.../carpenter/the angel adjutant of twice born men/vii the mothering heart.htm

Resources
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