How should Christians respond when their motives are questioned, as in 2 Samuel 3:8? Setting the scene: Abner’s reaction in 2 Samuel 3:8 “Then Abner became very angry over Ish-bosheth’s accusation and said, ‘Am I a dog’s head of Judah? Today I show loyalty to the house of your father Saul—to his brothers and friends—and I haven’t delivered you into the hand of David. Yet now you accuse me of wrongdoing with this woman!’ ” (2 Samuel 3:8) Abner felt betrayed, lashed out, and defended himself in anger. His response shows what often happens when motives are doubted—but Scripture offers a better way. Reality: Motives will be questioned • Jesus promised misunderstanding (Matthew 5:11-12). • Paul faced constant suspicion (1 Corinthians 4:3-5). • The issue isn’t whether accusations come, but how we answer them. First checkpoint: Examine our own hearts • Ask God to search you: “Search me, O God…see if there is any offensive way in me” (Psalm 139:23-24). • If conviction comes, repent quickly (1 John 1:9). • If conscience is clear, stand in that freedom (Acts 24:16). Second step: Respond with gentleness and respect • “A gentle answer turns away wrath” (Proverbs 15:1). • “Always be prepared to give a defense… but respond with gentleness and respect” (1 Peter 3:15-16). • Harsh, sarcastic words (Abner’s “Am I a dog’s head?”) may satisfy the flesh but rarely glorify God. Third step: Let God vindicate you • “Leave room for God’s wrath…‘Vengeance is Mine; I will repay,’ says the Lord” (Romans 12:17-19). • Jesus “entrusted Himself to Him who judges justly” (1 Peter 2:23). • Paul waited for “the Lord [to] bring to light what is hidden… and disclose the motives” (1 Corinthians 4:5). Fourth step: Keep walking in integrity • Live so accusations cannot stick: “Do everything without complaining or arguing… that you may be blameless and pure” (Philippians 2:14-15). • Aim to please God, not people (Galatians 1:10). • Consistent obedience outlasts slander (Titus 2:7-8). Practical takeaways for today • Pause before reacting; pray Psalm 139:23-24. • If correction is needed, embrace it; if not, remain calm. • Speak truthfully, briefly, kindly—then entrust the matter to the Lord. • Keep serving faithfully; time and godly character will prove your motives. |
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