In what ways can we seek peace in our own relationships today? A case study from 1 Kings 15:6 “And there had been war between Rehoboam and Jeroboam all the days of his life.” - Two kings, once part of one nation, spent an entire lifetime locked in hostility. - Their feud drained resources, divided families, and distracted the people from worship. - Scripture records the conflict as literal history and a cautionary mirror for us. Why conflict lingers - Pride: “Where there is strife, there is pride.” (Proverbs 13:10) - Unforgiveness: “Bitterness… defiles many.” (Hebrews 12:15) - Ignoring God’s counsel: Both kings rejected the prophets’ calls to repentance (1 Kings 12–14). God’s pathway to peace - Pursue humility first - “Clothe yourselves with humility toward one another.” (1 Peter 5:5) - Pride fuels division; humility opens doors. - Seek reconciliation quickly - “First be reconciled to your brother.” (Matthew 5:24) - Early conversations prevent festering wounds. - Choose gentle speech - “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1) - Tone often matters more than content. - Forgive as Christ forgave - “Be kind and compassionate… forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32) - Forgiveness releases both parties from the cycle of retaliation. - Actively make peace - “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.” (Matthew 5:9) - Peacemaking is proactive—seeking common ground, not merely avoiding conflict. - Let Christ rule your heart - “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts.” (Colossians 3:15) - His indwelling peace becomes the stabilizing factor in every relationship. - Depend on heavenly wisdom - “The wisdom from above is first of all pure, then peace-loving.” (James 3:17) - Ask God for wisdom before entering tough conversations. - Live peaceably, as far as it depends on you - “If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone.” (Romans 12:18) - We cannot control others’ reactions, but we can control our obedience. Practical next steps - Identify one strained relationship; pray specifically for that person each day this week. - Examine your heart: confess any pride, resentment, or harsh words. - Reach out—call, text, or visit—with a humble, conciliatory tone. - Listen more than you speak (James 1:19) and affirm what you hear. - Offer and request forgiveness where needed. - Commit to ongoing gentleness, even if the other person is slow to respond. Choosing peace today Rehoboam and Jeroboam show the high cost of unchecked conflict. By embracing humility, forgiveness, and Christ-centered wisdom, we can break the cycle and enjoy the blessing promised to peacemakers—peace with God and peace with one another. |
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