In what ways can we become "a wise reprover" to others? Setting the context: Proverbs 25:12 “Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold, so is a wise reprover to a listening ear.” Gold jewelry is precious, attractive, and enduring; Scripture says a loving, discerning rebuke should feel the same to someone ready to hear. Becoming that kind of person takes intentional growth. Understand the goal of reproof • Restore, never humiliate (Galatians 6:1) • Protect the body of Christ from sin’s spread (1 Corinthians 5:6) • Promote maturity and holiness (Colossians 1:28) • Guard God’s honor and the credibility of the gospel (Titus 2:10) Cultivate the character of a wise reprover • Humility—“first take the beam out of your own eye” (Matthew 7:5) • Gentleness—“restore him with a spirit of gentleness” (Galatians 6:1) • Love—“speaking the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15) • Integrity—live what you urge (1 Timothy 4:12) • Patience—give space for reflection and change (2 Timothy 4:2) • Courage—risk awkward moments to rescue a brother or sister (Proverbs 27:6) Sharpen the skills of wise reproof • Listen first: “quick to listen, slow to speak” (James 1:19) • Time it well: “how good is a timely word!” (Proverbs 15:23) • Speak clearly and briefly; avoid piling on or vague hints • Ground every point in Scripture’s authority (2 Timothy 3:16) • Use calm tone and body language that communicates respect • Offer a path forward—specific steps, accountability, and encouragement • Affirm what is commendable to keep hope alive (1 Thessalonians 5:11) Follow the scriptural process • Start privately (Matthew 18:15) • If unheard, bring one or two witnesses (Matthew 18:16) • If still resisted, involve church leadership (Matthew 18:17) • Maintain confidentiality at every stage; gossip destroys trust • Aim for repentance and restoration, never personal vindication Rely on the Spirit • Pray beforehand for wisdom and the other person’s receptive heart (James 1:5) • Stay alert to the Spirit’s promptings during the conversation (John 16:13) • Trust God for results; you plant and water—He gives the growth (1 Corinthians 3:6) Keep listening and learning • Welcome reproof yourself: “rebuke a wise man and he will love you” (Proverbs 9:8-9) • Invite trusted friends to speak into your life (Hebrews 3:13) • Review each encounter; ask what you could improve • Remember: a wise reprover is forged over time by consistent obedience to God’s Word |
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