What practical steps help eliminate "slander" from our conversations? Seeing the Command Clearly “ But now you must put aside all such things: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your mouth.” (Colossians 3:8) Slander is speech that tears down another’s reputation. Because we are “new creations” in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17), the old habit has to go. Here are everyday ways to help that happen. Begin With the Heart • Luke 6:45 reminds us that our mouths spill what fills our hearts. • Ask the Lord to expose hidden resentment or pride—those inner sparks that ignite slander. • Meditate on Philippians 4:8; let truth, purity, and praise crowd out bitter thoughts. Filter Every Word Through a “Pause” • James 1:19: “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” • Before sharing a story about someone, mentally hit “pause.” • Questions for the pause: – Is it true? – Is it necessary? – Will it build up? (Ephesians 4:29) If any answer is “no,” keep it in the vault. Swap Slander for Intercession • When tempted to run someone down, pray for that person instead (Matthew 5:44). • Intercession changes the tone of our hearts and often diffuses the urge to speak ill. Practice Immediate Forgiveness • “Get rid of all bitterness… be kind and compassionate… forgiving each other” (Ephesians 4:31-32). • Unresolved offense leaks out as slander. Forgiveness cuts off the supply line. Speak Blessing Out Loud • 1 Peter 3:9 urges believers to “repay evil with blessing.” • Verbalize appreciation for the person’s strengths. Speaking blessing strengthens muscles that crowd out slander. Use Accountability • Invite a trusted believer to flag you when negative talk slips out (Proverbs 27:17). • Celebrate progress together; confess lapses quickly. Limit Gossip-Rich Environments • “Bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33). • Politely exit or redirect conversations that drift toward character-assassination. Store Up Scripture • “I have hidden Your word in my heart that I might not sin against You.” (Psalm 119:11) • Memorize verses on gracious speech (Colossians 4:6; Proverbs 16:24). The Spirit will pull them up right when you need them. Keep Eternity in View • Jesus said, “For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” (Matthew 12:37) • Remembering that every word matters lends gravity—and grace—to each conversation. Put these steps into practice, and the “old wardrobe” of slander will stay in the closet, while Christlike speech becomes your everyday attire. |
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