How can Proverbs 25:19 guide us in choosing trustworthy friends? The vivid warning in Proverbs 25:19 “Like a broken tooth or a foot out of joint is confidence in a faithless man in time of trouble.” What the imagery tells us • A broken tooth appears solid until pressure is applied—then pain flares and usefulness vanishes. • A foot out of joint can still look normal, but the moment you try to bear weight, it collapses. • Both pictures stress hidden unreliability that shows up precisely when support is most needed. Traits Scripture links to trustworthy friends • Steadfast love (Proverbs 17:17; John 15:13) • Truth-telling even when it stings (Proverbs 27:6) • Loyalty under pressure (1 Samuel 20:16-17) • Humble, godly counsel (Proverbs 27:9; Psalm 1:1-2) • Consistency of character (Matthew 7:16-17) Red flags the proverb exposes • Promises made easily but seldom kept • A pattern of abandoning others when costs rise • Flattery that replaces honest feedback • Compromises with sin that invite you to follow (1 Corinthians 15:33) Practical steps for choosing friends you can lean on 1. Watch their walk more than their words—pressure reveals authenticity. 2. Test confidences with small matters before sharing weightier ones. 3. Note how they treat those who cannot repay them (Luke 6:31-35). 4. Invite them into spiritually sharpening habits—prayer, worship, service—and see if they engage or drift. 5. Seek alignment in core convictions (2 Corinthians 6:14); differences can enrich, but moral foundations must match. Living Proverbs 25:19 today • Guard your own integrity so you become the kind of friend others can trust. • Keep short accounts with God and people; reliability grows from a clean, surrendered heart. • Remember that even reliable friends are still human—ultimate confidence rests in “a Friend who sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24), our Lord Jesus Christ. |