Abusive Husbands
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Definition and Context:
Abusive husbands are those who engage in harmful, controlling, or violent behavior towards their wives. This behavior can manifest physically, emotionally, psychologically, or spiritually. The Bible, while written in a historical context where patriarchal structures were prevalent, provides principles that condemn abuse and promote love, respect, and mutual care within marriage.

Biblical Principles Against Abuse:
The Bible does not explicitly mention "abusive husbands," but it provides clear teachings on how husbands should treat their wives. Ephesians 5:25 instructs, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her." This verse emphasizes sacrificial love, contrasting sharply with any form of abuse.

Colossians 3:19 further advises, "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." The call to avoid harshness underscores the expectation of gentleness and kindness in marital relationships.

Marriage as a Covenant of Love and Respect:
The Bible portrays marriage as a covenant relationship characterized by mutual love and respect. In 1 Peter 3:7 , husbands are urged, "Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered." This passage highlights the importance of understanding, respect, and honor, which are antithetical to abusive behavior.

Consequences of Abuse:
While the Bible does not provide specific legal or societal consequences for abusive husbands, it does speak to the spiritual and relational consequences of sin and mistreatment. Malachi 2:16 states, "For I hate divorce, says the LORD, the God of Israel, and the one who covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of Hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not break faith." This passage associates violence with breaking faith, indicating that abuse is a serious violation of the marital covenant.

God's Care for the Oppressed:
The Bible consistently reveals God's concern for the oppressed and mistreated. Psalm 9:9 declares, "The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble." This assurance of divine refuge and justice is a source of comfort for those suffering from abuse.

Role of the Church and Community:
The Christian community is called to support and protect those who are vulnerable. Galatians 6:2 encourages believers to "Carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." This implies a responsibility to intervene, support, and provide a safe environment for those affected by abuse.

Conclusion:
While the Bible does not directly address the modern concept of "abusive husbands," its teachings on love, respect, and the sanctity of marriage provide a framework that clearly opposes any form of abuse. The biblical call for husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church sets a standard of selfless, nurturing care that leaves no room for abusive behavior.
Topical Bible Verses
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
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1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
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1 Peter 3:6
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters you are, as long as you do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
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Ephesians 5:25-29
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
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Matthew 19:9
And I say to you, Whoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her which is put away does commit adultery.
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Library

The Bishop's Burthen
... Husbands are found loudly claiming a right to free love for themselves, while they
force their wives to conjugal ... They make an abusive practice of divorce. ...
//christianbookshelf.org/bertrand/saint augustin/iii the bishops burthen.htm

The Great Awakening.
... to perform the relative duties of parents and children, husbands and wives ... as Dr.
Alexander has characterized as "one of the most severely abusive sermons which ...
/.../bacon/a history of american christianity/chapter xi the great awakening.htm

Bardesan.
... [3393] There are some of them that become the husbands of their ... fault with if he
steal, or lie, or practise deceit, or poison another, or be abusive, or do any ...
/.../unknown/the decretals/ancient syriac documents bardesan.htm

Excuses not Reasons
... Fathers and mothers, husbands and wives, parents and children, remember Christ's
deep words ... It is only the excessive and abusive possession of His gifts and ...
/.../maclaren/expositions of holy scripture e/excuses not reasons.htm

The Way from Sin to Perfect Salvation.
... Should a man who had used abusive language to you come and penitently ask ... "Husbands,
love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself ...
//christianbookshelf.org/orr/the gospel day /chapter v the way from.htm

On Being Filled with the Spirit
... women who felt that they ought to talk to their unconverted husbands, and pray ... if
the truth touch them, they directly cry out that it is personal and abusive. ...
/.../finney/lectures on revivals of religion/lecture vii on being filled.htm

The First Epistle of St. Peter
... 18. Peter thinks it possible that pagan husbands may be won over by Christian wives
(iii.1), but he does not contemplate the possibility of Christian servants ...
/.../moffat/the general epistles james peter and judas/the first epistle of st.htm

Conflicts of the Church with Public Wrongs.
... they shall perform the duties and cherish the endearments of husbands and wives ... as
far as law could wisely undertake to prevent, all abusive and mischievous ...
/.../bacon/a history of american christianity/chapter xvi conflicts of the.htm

Answers to Prayer
... March, the wives of the two men accompanying their husbands, making our ... that bill;
the principal was importunate, persevering, bitter, and, at last, abusive. ...
//christianbookshelf.org/various/the wonders of prayer/answers to prayer.htm

The Perpetual virginity of Blessed Mary.
... deny that holy women are found both among widows and those who have husbands; but
they ... I shall not venture to explain it, for fear Helvidius may be abusive. ...
/.../jerome/the principal works of st jerome/the perpetual virginity of blessed.htm

Resources
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