Turning Down Your Spouse
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In the context of marriage, the concept of "turning down your spouse" often refers to the refusal of one partner to engage in physical intimacy or to fulfill certain marital duties. This topic is addressed in various passages of the Bible, which provide guidance on the nature of marital relationships and the responsibilities of spouses toward one another.

Biblical Foundation

The Bible emphasizes the importance of mutual love, respect, and submission within the marriage covenant. In Ephesians 5:22-33, the Apostle Paul outlines the roles of husbands and wives, urging wives to submit to their husbands as to the Lord and husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church. This passage underscores the reciprocal nature of marital duties, where both partners are called to serve and honor each other.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5 provides specific guidance on the issue of marital intimacy: "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband. Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife. Do not deprive one another, except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again, so that Satan will not tempt you through your lack of self-control." This passage highlights the mutual authority spouses have over each other's bodies and the importance of consensual and regular intimacy to safeguard the marriage from temptation.

Principles of Love and Sacrifice

The biblical model of marriage is rooted in love and sacrifice, reflecting the relationship between Christ and the church. In 1 Peter 3:7, husbands are instructed to live with their wives in an understanding way, showing honor to them as the weaker vessel, and recognizing them as co-heirs of the grace of life. This call to understanding and honor implies a sensitivity to the needs and feelings of one's spouse, including in matters of intimacy.

The Song of Solomon, a poetic book celebrating marital love, also provides insight into the beauty and joy of physical intimacy within marriage. It portrays the mutual desire and affection between a husband and wife, emphasizing the importance of cherishing and valuing one another.

Challenges and Considerations

While the Bible sets forth ideals for marital relationships, it also acknowledges the challenges that couples may face. Factors such as illness, stress, emotional struggles, and external pressures can impact a couple's intimacy. In such cases, open communication, prayer, and seeking counsel from trusted spiritual leaders or counselors can be beneficial.

The biblical principle of love as described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 serves as a guiding framework for addressing these challenges: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." This passage encourages spouses to approach each other with patience, kindness, and selflessness, even in difficult times.

Conclusion

The Bible provides a comprehensive framework for understanding the dynamics of marital relationships, including the issue of turning down one's spouse. By adhering to biblical principles of love, respect, and mutual submission, couples can navigate the complexities of marriage and foster a relationship that honors God and strengthens their bond.
Topical Bible Verses
Matthew 5:32
But I say to you, That whoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery: and whoever shall marry her that is divorced commits adultery.
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1 Corinthians 7:4
The wife has not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband has not power of his own body, but the wife.
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Under the Apple Tree. "I Sat Down under his Shadow with Great ...
... Sun"that Sun without variableness or shadow of a turning"ever dart ... "I sat down under
His ... in proportion as you also know these two things, your valuation of ...
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The Infallibility of God's Purpose
... plan; he is without variableness or shadow of a turning. ... God within you, and sit
no longer down upon your ... desponding ones; if salvation were to be your own work ...
/.../spurgeon/spurgeons sermons volume 7 1861/the infallibility of gods purpose.htm

Letter cxxx. To Demetrias.
... 3640] and, what with blushing and turning pale, with ... Such practices soon break down
weak constitutions and ... Follow the example of your Spouse: [3726] be subject ...
/.../jerome/the principal works of st jerome/letter cxxx to demetrias.htm

Christian Meekness
... though when they get the power, I would be loath to trust them, their river water
often turning to blood ... Let not the sun go down upon your wrath, neither ...
/.../watson/the beatitudes an exposition of matthew 51-12/12 christian meekness.htm

A Jealous God
... to jealousy," and the doom on Jerusalem for thus turning from Jehovah ... He is very
jealous of your trust. ... then is our Beloved glad, but when we go down to the ...
/.../spurgeon/spurgeons sermons volume 9 1863/a jealous god.htm

Epistle Xlvi. To Isacius, Bishop of Jerusalem .
... is, as it were, still cut down from the ... Wherefore your Holiness ought carefully to
consider all things ... be surmounted he prudently avoids by turning his course ...
/.../the epistles of saint gregory the great/epistle xlvi to isacius bishop.htm

A Message from God for Thee
... of it!" Ye give a full vent to your sorrows, till your distress rolls ... Christ drained
it; to the very dregs he drained it; turning it upside down, he said ...
/.../spurgeon/spurgeons sermons volume 8 1863/a message from god for.htm

Jesus, Pilate and Herod.
... Go to your own governor; he will do justice ... of my palace at Herodium and saw the
sun go down. ... relate much more wondrous miracles of thine." Then turning to the ...
/...//christianbookshelf.org/stead/king of the jews/chapter vii jesus pilate and.htm

Letter cxlvii. To Sabinianus.
... not turn away from him?" For this "turning away" God ... that the aggrieved husband was
coming down from the ... read the letters of commendation which your bishop had ...
/.../jerome/the principal works of st jerome/letter cxlvii to sabinianus.htm

No Compromise
... working out the destinies of immortal spirits, turning souls from ... singular, but be
as worldly as your neighbours ... Thus is Isaac going down into Padan-aram: thus ...
/.../spurgeon/spurgeons sermons volume 34 1888/no compromise.htm

Resources
What was the meaning and importance of the Jerusalem Council (Acts 15)? | GotQuestions.org

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Turning: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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