How can we discern a child's character through their actions, as Proverbs 20:11 suggests? Verse in Focus “Even a young man is known by his actions—whether his conduct is pure and upright.” Proverbs 20:11 Why Actions Lay Bare the Heart - Actions spring from what is hidden inside (Luke 6:45). - Deeds confirm or deny professed faith (James 2:17-18). - Visible “fruit” reveals the unseen tree (Matthew 7:16). Practical Signs to Watch For • Speech – Does the child build up or tear down? (Proverbs 15:2; 1 Timothy 4:12) • Obedience to Authority – Is there prompt, willing submission? (Ephesians 6:1) • Treatment of Peers and Siblings – Are kindness and fairness habitual? (1 John 3:18) • Stewardship of Small Things – Is the child trustworthy with chores, possessions, time? (Luke 16:10) • Response to Correction – Does the child welcome instruction or bristle at it? (Proverbs 12:1) Guidelines for Discerning Character 1. Look for consistent patterns, not isolated moments. 2. Measure behavior against clear biblical standards, not personal preference. 3. Note growth over time; character is shaped in seasons, not snapshots. 4. Maintain a gracious, hopeful outlook—God weighs the heart (1 Samuel 16:7) and is still at work. Partnering with God to Shape Character - Teach Scripture diligently (Deuteronomy 6:6-7). - Model the very traits you desire to see (Philippians 4:9; Titus 2:7). - Apply loving, measured discipline (Proverbs 13:24). - Celebrate and reinforce every evidence of godly fruit (Proverbs 22:6). Hope for Every Parent and Mentor Even when a child’s current actions expose immaturity or sin, remember that God delights to transform hearts. Faithfully shepherd today, trusting Him to bring the lasting fruit of “pure and upright” conduct tomorrow. |
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