2 Samuel 3:16
Her husband followed her, weeping all the way to Bahurim. Then Abner said to him, "Go back." So he returned home.
Her husband followed her,

Paltiel had received Michal from Saul after Saul had wrongfully taken her from David and given her to another man. His tears reveal genuine attachment, yet Michal’s return restored David’s lawful marriage and publicly renewed his connection to Saul’s royal house.

Gen 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother…
Mrk 10:7-9 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother…
Rom 7:2-3 For instance, a married woman is bound by law…

weeping all the way to Bahurim.

Paltiel followed Michal eastward as far as Bahurim, a village near the Mount of Olives on the road toward the Jordan Valley. His grief exposes the personal wounds created by Saul’s earlier actions and by the struggle for Israel’s throne. Bahurim later appears in David’s flight from Absalom, when Shimei cursed him.

2Sa 15:30 But David continued up the Mount of Olives,…
2Sa 16:5 As King David approached Bahurim, a man from the house…
Jer 31:9 They will come with weeping, and by their supplication…

Then Abner said to him, “Go back.”

Abner exercised the authority of a military commander and chief negotiator for Ish-bosheth’s kingdom. Michal’s return formed part of Abner’s effort to unite Israel under David, whose claim to the throne had been established by God and strengthened by his former marriage into Saul’s family.

Rut 1:8 Then Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law,…
Jos 22:4 And now that the LORD your God has given your brothers rest…
1Ki 12:24 this is what the LORD says: ‘You are not to go up and fight…

So he returned home.

Paltiel obeyed and disappeared from the account, bearing the sorrow of a decision made by rulers and commanders. The scene shows that the transfer of power in Israel involved real human loss, even as God continued to establish David as king over all the tribes.

Jhn 7:53 Then each went to his own home.
Luk 15:20 So he got up and went to his father…
Jhn 20:10 Then the disciples returned to their homes.

Persons / Places / Events
1. Michal
Daughter of King Saul and first wife of David, who was given to another man, Paltiel, by her father.

2. Paltiel
Michal's second husband, who deeply loved her and followed her weeping when she was taken back to David.

3. Abner
The commander of Saul's army who defected to David's side and facilitated Michal's return to David.

4. David
The anointed king of Israel, who demanded Michal's return as part of his negotiations with Abner.

5. Bahurim
A location on the route from Paltiel's home to David, where Abner instructed Paltiel to return.
Teaching Points
The Complexity of Human Relationships
The account of Michal, David, and Paltiel illustrates the tangled web of human emotions and relationships, reminding us of the need for compassion and understanding in our interactions.

The Consequences of Political Decisions
Abner's actions were politically motivated, showing how political decisions can deeply affect personal lives. We should be mindful of how our decisions impact others.

The Pain of Separation
Paltiel's weeping highlights the deep pain of separation, encouraging us to support those who are experiencing loss or separation in their lives.

God's Sovereignty in Human Affairs
Despite the human drama, God's purposes were being fulfilled in David's life. We can trust that God is at work even in the complexities of our lives.

The Importance of Covenant Relationships
David's insistence on Michal's return underscores the importance of honoring commitments and covenants, a principle that applies to our relationships today.
Bible Study Questions
1. How does the account of Michal, David, and Paltiel challenge our understanding of marriage and commitment in a biblical context?

2. In what ways can we see God's hand at work in the midst of the political and personal turmoil described in 2 Samuel 3:16?

3. How can we apply the principle of compassion, as seen in Paltiel's weeping, to our own relationships and interactions with others?

4. What lessons can we learn from Abner's role in this account about the impact of our decisions on the lives of others?

5. How does the account of Michal and Paltiel relate to Jesus' teachings on marriage and commitment in the New Testament?
Connections to Other Scriptures
1 Samuel 18:27
This verse recounts David's marriage to Michal, providing context for her significance in David's life and his claim to her.

2 Samuel 6:16
Michal's later disdain for David's worship, showing the complexity of their relationship.

Genesis 2:24
The principle of a man leaving his family to be united with his wife, highlighting the pain of Paltiel's separation from Michal.

Matthew 19:6
Jesus' teaching on the sanctity of marriage, which can be contrasted with the political maneuvering seen in Michal's situation.
A Long WarC. M. Fleury, A. M.2 Samuel 3:1-39
Perpetual WarJ. Irons.2 Samuel 3:1-39
Progress and Termination of the Civil WarW. G. Blaikie, M. A.2 Samuel 3:1-39
A Domestic EpisodeB. Dale 2 Samuel 3:12-16
People
Abigail, Abishai, Abital, Abner, Absalom, Adonijah, Ahinoam, Aiah, Amnon, Asahel, Benjamin, Benjamites, Chileab, Dan, David, Eglah, Gibeon, Haggith, Ishbosheth, Ithream, Jezreel, Jezreelitess, Jizreelitess, Joab, Laish, Maacah, Maachah, Michal, Nabal, Ner, Paltiel, Phaltiel, Rizpah, Saul, Shephatiah, Talmai, Zeruiah
Places
Bahurim, Beersheba, Bethlehem, Carmel, Dan, Geshur, Gibeon, Hebron
Topics
Abner, Along, Bahurim, Bahu'rim, Behind, Followed, Home, However, Husband, Return, Returned, Turn, Turneth, Weeping
Dictionary of Bible Themes
2 Samuel 3:16

     5198   weeping

2 Samuel 3:12-21

     5087   David, reign of

Library
The King --Continued.
The years thus well begun are, in the historical books, characterized mainly by three events, namely, the bringing up of the ark to the newly won city of David, Nathan's prophecy of the perpetual dominion of his house, and his victories over the surrounding nations. These three hinges of the narrative are all abundantly illustrated in the psalms. As to the first, we have relics of the joyful ceremonial connected with it in two psalms, the fifteenth and twenty-fourth, which are singularly alike not
Alexander Maclaren—The Life of David

The King.
We have now to turn and see the sudden change of fortune which lifted the exile to a throne. The heavy cloud which had brooded so long over the doomed king broke in lightning crash on the disastrous field of Gilboa. Where is there a sadder and more solemn story of the fate of a soul which makes shipwreck "of faith and of a good conscience," than that awful page which tells how, godless, wretched, mad with despair and measureless pride, he flung himself on his bloody sword, and died a suicide's death,
Alexander Maclaren—The Life of David

Of a Private Fast.
That we may rightly perform a private fast, four things are to be observed:--First, The author; Secondly, The time and occasion; Thirdly, The manner; Fourthly, The ends of private fasting. 1. Of the Author. The first that ordained fasting was God himself in paradise; and it was the first law that God made, in commanding Adam to abstain from eating the forbidden fruit. God would not pronounce nor write his law without fasting (Lev. xxiii), and in his law commands all his people to fast. So does our
Lewis Bayly—The Practice of Piety

A Believer's Privilege at Death
'For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.' Phil 1:1I. Hope is a Christian's anchor, which he casts within the veil. Rejoicing in hope.' Rom 12:12. A Christian's hope is not in this life, but he hash hope in his death.' Prov 14:42. The best of a saint's comfort begins when his life ends; but the wicked have all their heaven here. Woe unto you that are rich! for ye have received your consolation.' Luke 6:64. You may make your acquittance, and write Received in full payment.' Son, remember that
Thomas Watson—A Body of Divinity

The Morning of Good Friday.
The pale grey light had passed into that of early morning, when the Sanhedrists once more assembled in the Palace of Caiaphas. [5969] A comparison with the terms in which they who had formed the gathering of the previous night are described will convey the impression, that the number of those present was now increased, and that they who now came belonged to the wisest and most influential of the Council. It is not unreasonable to suppose, that some who would not take part in deliberations which were
Alfred Edersheim—The Life and Times of Jesus the Messiah

Growth in Grace
'But grow in grace.' 2 Pet 3:38. True grace is progressive, of a spreading and growing nature. It is with grace as with light; first, there is the crepusculum, or daybreak; then it shines brighter to the full meridian. A good Christian is like the crocodile. Quamdiu vivet crescit; he has never done growing. The saints are not only compared to stars for their light, but to trees for their growth. Isa 61:1, and Hos 14:4. A good Christian is not like Hezekiah's sun that went backwards, nor Joshua's
Thomas Watson—A Body of Divinity

Samuel
Alike from the literary and the historical point of view, the book[1] of Samuel stands midway between the book of Judges and the book of Kings. As we have already seen, the Deuteronomic book of Judges in all probability ran into Samuel and ended in ch. xii.; while the story of David, begun in Samuel, embraces the first two chapters of the first book of Kings. The book of Samuel is not very happily named, as much of it is devoted to Saul and the greater part to David; yet it is not altogether inappropriate,
John Edgar McFadyen—Introduction to the Old Testament

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