Loving Your Wife
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The biblical mandate for husbands to love their wives is a profound and central theme in Christian teachings on marriage. This love is not merely an emotional affection but a deep, sacrificial commitment that mirrors the love Christ has for the Church. The Bible provides clear instructions and examples that illustrate how a husband should love his wife, emphasizing the importance of this relationship in the Christian life.

Biblical Foundation

The primary scriptural basis for loving one's wife is found in Ephesians 5:25-33. The Apostle Paul writes, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her" (Ephesians 5:25). This passage sets a high standard, calling husbands to a selfless, sacrificial love that prioritizes the well-being and spiritual growth of their wives. The comparison to Christ's love for the Church underscores the depth and commitment required in this relationship.

Paul continues, "In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself" (Ephesians 5:28). This analogy highlights the unity and oneness that marriage creates, where the husband is to care for his wife with the same attention and devotion he would give to his own body.

The Role of Love in Marriage

The love a husband is called to exhibit is not conditional or based on the wife's actions or behavior. Instead, it is rooted in the covenantal nature of marriage, reflecting God's unwavering love for His people. Colossians 3:19 further instructs, "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them" . This command emphasizes gentleness and kindness, rejecting any form of harshness or bitterness.

Practical Expressions of Love

1. Sacrificial Service: Just as Christ served the Church, husbands are called to serve their wives, putting their needs and interests above their own. This can manifest in daily acts of kindness, support, and understanding.

2. Spiritual Leadership: A husband is to lead his wife spiritually, encouraging her growth in faith and holiness. This involves praying together, studying Scripture, and fostering a home environment centered on Christ.

3. Emotional Support: Providing emotional support and understanding is crucial. Husbands are to listen, empathize, and be present for their wives, offering comfort and reassurance.

4. Physical Affection: Expressing love through physical affection is an important aspect of marital love. This includes not only sexual intimacy but also gestures of affection like holding hands, hugging, and other forms of physical closeness.

Old Testament Insights

While the New Testament provides explicit instructions, the Old Testament also offers insights into loving one's wife. Proverbs 5:18-19 encourages husbands to rejoice in their wives and be captivated by their love, highlighting the joy and delight that should characterize the marital relationship.

The Song of Solomon, though often interpreted allegorically, celebrates the beauty and passion of marital love, providing a poetic depiction of the deep affection and desire that should exist between husband and wife.

Challenges and Encouragement

Loving one's wife as Christ loves the Church is a challenging calling, requiring grace, patience, and perseverance. However, it is also a source of great blessing and fulfillment. The love a husband shows his wife not only strengthens the marital bond but also serves as a powerful testimony of God's love to the world.

In seeking to fulfill this biblical mandate, husbands are encouraged to rely on the Holy Spirit for strength and guidance, continually seeking to grow in love and understanding. Through prayer, study of Scripture, and commitment to their wives, husbands can embody the love that God intends for marriage.
Topical Bible Verses
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
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Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
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Gentleness.
... If you meet with something quite provoking from your wife or the ... Learn to be gentle
in your home. ... picture to yourself how gentle and kind and loving you should ...
//christianbookshelf.org/orr/how to live a holy life/gentleness.htm

Preparation for Service
... telling these unconverted people about a kind and loving FATHER in heaven, and not
prepared yourself to ... "You asked me to come and pray with your wife," I said ...
/.../taylor/a retrospect/chapter iii preparation for service.htm

To Monna Orsa Wife of Bartolo Usimbardi and to Monna Agnese Wife ...
... OF BARTOLO USIMBARDI AND TO MONNA AGNESE WIFE OF FRANCESCO ... For otherwise you would
not receive your reward, and ... with all its joys, and loving virtue, bearing ...
/.../benincasa/letters of catherine benincasa/to monna orsa wife of.htm

The Holy Spirit Guiding the Believer into a Life as a Son.
... Our lives should not be governed by a set of rules without us but by the loving
Spirit of Adoption within us. ... In any event, she is your wife. ...
/.../torrey/the person and work of the holy spirit/chapter xiv the holy spirit.htm

The First Disciples: ii. Simon Peter
... very rude words which the Bible uses, 'Dumb dogs lying down, and loving to slumber ...
seeds of the disease will find their way to you, and kill your wife, or child ...
/.../maclaren/expositions of holy scripture i/the first disciples ii simon.htm

Backsliding.
... The most tender and loving words to be found in the whole of the Bible are ... Do you
not remember when your wife's mother lay sick of a fever that I rebuked the ...
/.../moody/the way to god and how to find it/chapter ix backsliding.htm

Why did He not Take his Wife Along?
... cannot come." Why did he not take his wife along with ... have said; don't give it up
for anything your friend may ... night, and flee to the arms of a loving Saviour. ...
/.../moody/moodys anecdotes and illustrations/why did he not take.htm

Letter cxxii. To Rusticus.
... murder to adultery; yet bursting into tears he says: "Have mercy upon me, O God,
according to thy loving kindness: according ... Your former wife, who is ...
/.../jerome/the principal works of st jerome/letter cxxii to rusticus.htm

A Faithful Friend
... His loving-kindness, O! how good.". ... love shed abroad in your hearts, and your mother's
love, your daughter's love, your husband's love, your wife's love, will ...
//christianbookshelf.org/spurgeon/sermons on proverbs/a faithful friend.htm

The Barley Field on Fire
... of you now present who have been called by the most loving of voices ... are poor"perhaps
your drunkenness has made you so; you have lost your wife"perhaps your ...
/.../spurgeon/spurgeons sermons volume 10 1864/the barley field on fire.htm

Resources
What does it mean to love God? | GotQuestions.org

What does it mean to love Jesus? | GotQuestions.org

Do Christians have to obey the Old Testament law? | GotQuestions.org

Loving: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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Loving

Loving a Married Man

Loving God

Loving Men

Loving My Family

Loving One Another

Loving Other Gods

Loving Thy Neighbor

Loving Unconditionally

Loving Your Body

Loving Your Brother and Sister

Loving Your Enemies

Loving Your Enemy

Loving Your Neighbor

Loving Your Wife

Loving Yourself

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