Marrying a Non Believer
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Introduction

The topic of marrying a non-believer is one that has been addressed in various parts of the Bible, providing guidance for Christians who are considering entering into a marriage with someone who does not share their faith. This entry explores the biblical perspective on such unions, drawing from scriptural references and principles.

Old Testament Context

In the Old Testament, the Israelites were given specific instructions regarding marriage with those outside their faith. In Deuteronomy 7:3-4, God commands the Israelites, "Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your children away from following Me to serve other gods." This directive was intended to preserve the spiritual purity and distinctiveness of the Israelite community, preventing the influence of idolatry and pagan practices.

The account of Solomon serves as a cautionary tale. Despite his wisdom, Solomon's marriages to foreign women led him astray, as recorded in 1 Kings 11:4: "For when Solomon grew old, his wives turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the LORD his God, as the heart of David his father had been."

New Testament Teachings

The New Testament continues to address the issue of believers marrying non-believers. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, the Apostle Paul advises, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership can righteousness have with wickedness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?" This metaphor of being "unequally yoked" suggests that a marriage between a believer and a non-believer can lead to spiritual discord and challenges in maintaining a shared faith journey.

Paul further elaborates on the potential difficulties in 1 Corinthians 7:12-14, where he addresses believers who are already married to non-believers. He encourages them to remain in the marriage if the non-believing spouse is willing to live with them, stating, "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her husband." This indicates that the believing spouse can have a positive spiritual influence on the household.

Spiritual Implications

Marrying a non-believer can present significant spiritual challenges. The believer may face difficulties in practicing their faith fully, raising children in a Christian environment, and maintaining a unified spiritual direction in the marriage. The potential for conflict arises when core values and beliefs differ, impacting decisions on worship, moral standards, and family life.

Practical Considerations

For Christians contemplating marriage with a non-believer, it is essential to consider the long-term implications on their spiritual life and family dynamics. Seeking counsel from church leaders, engaging in prayer, and reflecting on biblical teachings can provide guidance in making such a significant decision.

Conclusion

While the Bible provides clear guidance on the potential challenges of marrying a non-believer, it also offers hope for those already in such marriages, emphasizing the possibility of positive influence and sanctification within the household.
Topical Bible Verses
2 Corinthians 6:14
Be you not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion has light with darkness?
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1 Corinthians 15:33
Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
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Whether the Husband, Being Converted to the Faith, May Remain with ...
... Consequently, then, the believer could, after his conversion ... Reply to Objection 3:
Non-baptized unbelievers are ... after divorcing one and marrying another, the ...
/.../aquinas/summa theologica/whether the husband being converted.htm

Of the Apostle's Meaning in 1 Cor. vii. 12-14.
... of old (that is, before marriage) a believer, that they ... the other, further, even
the power of not marrying. ... et pr??varicator perspicaci?? su?? (Deus) non est.". ...
/.../tertullian/to his wife/chapter ii of the apostles meaning.htm

Chapter xvi.
... one of the parties becoming a believer, and unless ... that if he commits adultery by
marrying her who ... is not fornication (omne peccatum fornicatio non est); and ...
/...//christianbookshelf.org/augustine/our lords sermon on the mount/chapter xvi.htm

Chapter xxviii
... till now have been reluctant too about marrying off their ... had taken pains to secure
a non-Canaanite wife for ... Any true believer's knowledge of God involves such ...
/.../leupold/exposition of genesis volume 1/chapter xxviii.htm

The Westminster Confession of Faith. AD 1647.
... Libri Apocryphi, vulgo dicti, quum non fuerint divinitus inspirati, Canonem Scriptur??
nullatenus constituunt; proindeque nullam aliam authoritatem obtinere ...
/.../the westminster confession of faith.htm

Anti-Pelagian Writings
... On Origen's Error Concerning the Non-Eternity of the Punishment ... None But a Believer
is Truly a Chaste Man ... Before Christ It Was a Time for Marrying; Since Christ ...
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Doctrinal and Moral Treatises. Index of Subjects.
... 360; exorcised, [690]369; loss of, [691]372, [692]530; why baptized, [693]419; the
Three Holy, Song of, [694]438; having, a reason for not marrying again, [695 ...
/.../on care to be had for the dead /doctrinal and moral treatises index.htm

Against Jovinianus.
... to marry another to prevent fornication, but "have his own wife." Let him he says
have and use his own wife, whom he had before he became a believer, and whom ...
/.../jerome/the principal works of st jerome/against jovinianus.htm

Summa Theologica
Summa Theologica. <. Summa Theologica Saint Thomas Aquinas. Table
of Contents. Title Page. Whether, besides philosophy, any ...
//christianbookshelf.org/aquinas/summa theologica/

Memoir of John Bunyan
... mountains.' The poor tinker, considering these passages in their literal import,
imagined they were meant as tests to try whether the believer possessed faith ...
/.../bunyan/the works of john bunyan volumes 1-3/memoir of john bunyan.htm

Resources
Is it possible to marry the wrong person? | GotQuestions.org

How could Jacob not notice he married Leah instead of Rachel? | GotQuestions.org

Why did God allow incest in the Bible? | GotQuestions.org

Marrying: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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