Submitting to Your Husband
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The concept of a wife submitting to her husband is rooted in several passages of the New Testament, primarily within the Pauline epistles. The Apostle Paul addresses the marital relationship in the context of Christian households, emphasizing a structure that reflects Christ's relationship with the Church.

Ephesians 5:22-24 : "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything."

This passage is often cited as the cornerstone for understanding the biblical perspective on marital submission. Paul draws a parallel between the marital relationship and the relationship between Christ and the Church, suggesting a model of loving leadership and willing submission.

Colossians 3:18 : "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord."

Here, Paul reiterates the call for wives to submit to their husbands, framing it as an act that is appropriate and fitting within the Christian faith. The phrase "as is fitting in the Lord" suggests that this submission is not blind or absolute but is to be understood within the context of a Christian life.

1 Peter 3:1-6 : "Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your husbands so that, even if they refuse to believe the word, they will be won over without words by the behavior of their wives when they see your pure and reverent demeanor."

The Apostle Peter also addresses the topic, highlighting the potential for a wife's conduct to influence her husband positively, even in cases where the husband may not share the same faith. This passage underscores the power of a godly example and the transformative potential of respectful submission.

Theological Context

The call for wives to submit to their husbands is often understood within the broader theological framework of complementarianism, which posits that men and women have distinct but complementary roles in marriage, family, and church life. This view holds that while men and women are equal in value and dignity before God, they are assigned different roles that reflect the order of creation and the nature of the relationship between Christ and the Church.

Practical Implications

In practical terms, submission in marriage is often interpreted as a wife's willingness to respect her husband's leadership and to support his role as the head of the household. This does not imply inferiority or a lack of agency but rather a harmonious partnership where both spouses work together for the good of the family, with the husband taking on the responsibility of leadership and the wife offering support and counsel.

Mutual Submission

It is important to note that the broader context of Ephesians 5 includes a call for mutual submission among all believers: "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ" (Ephesians 5:21). This suggests that while there is a specific call for wives to submit to their husbands, there is also a general principle of mutual respect and submission that should characterize all Christian relationships, including marriage.

Cultural Considerations

The biblical instruction for wives to submit to their husbands must be understood within its historical and cultural context. In the Greco-Roman world, household codes were common, and the early Christian teachings on marriage would have been both familiar and countercultural. The Christian model emphasized love, respect, and mutual care, contrasting with the often authoritarian structures of the time.

Conclusion

The biblical teaching on submitting to one's husband is a nuanced and often debated topic within Christian theology. It calls for a balance of respect, love, and mutual submission, reflecting the relationship between Christ and the Church. Understanding this teaching requires careful consideration of the biblical text, theological principles, and cultural context.
Topical Bible Verses
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
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1 Peter 3:1-22
Likewise, you wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
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Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
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Ephesians 5:21
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
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1 Peter 3:1-2
Likewise, you wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
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Ephesians 5:22
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
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Colossians 3:18
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
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Ephesians 5:24
Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
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Genesis 3:16
To the woman he said, I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; in sorrow you shall bring forth children; and your desire shall be to your husband, and he shall rule over you.
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Galatians 3:28
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
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Epistle Lxii. To Januarius, Archbishop of Caralis (Cagliari) in ...
... Holy Scripture declares Himself to be the husband of widows ... or in future, to be
terminated by your judgment, that ... be by no means excused from submitting to a ...
/.../epistle lxii to januarius archbishop.htm

Fourth Division.
... whom you already see the whole world submitting, but even ... of God must be your guilt
and your doom if I ... to nerve himself for battle, by the husband to establish ...
/.../augustine/the confessions and letters of st/fourth division.htm

The Owner and his Slaves
... woman owns her husband, or a loving husband his wife ... Some of you are your own despots,
your own tyrants. ... slave has a far worse slavery in submitting to these ...
/.../expositions of holy scripture ephesians peter/the owner and his slaves.htm

Joy, a Duty
... and difficulty and affliction, bearing up, and patiently submitting with holy ... Rejoice,
too, in the Son, your Redeemer, your Brother, the Husband of you ...
/.../christianbookshelf.org/spurgeon/spurgeons sermons volume 41 1895/joy a duty.htm

Letter xv. Social and Relative Duties.
... see that she reverence her husband." "Likewise ye ... and be clothed with humility."
"Submitting yourselves one to ... special duties growing out of your relations to ...
/.../letter xv social and relative.htm

On Obedience to Parents
... father and mother, and cleave unto her husband; (in consequence of ... and, by habituating
them to submit to your will, prepare them for submitting to the ...
/.../wesley/sermons on several occasions/sermon 96 on obedience to.htm

Letter Lxvi. To Pammachius.
... instance can there be of justice than your mother, who ... she had longed for was no
other than her husband. ... good authority that her wish in submitting herself to ...
/.../jerome/the principal works of st jerome/letter lxvi to pammachius.htm

One Saying with Two Meanings
... across the globe to seek for husband, child, or ... the very heart and motive of your
action be ... thought meditating, love going out towards Him, will submitting. ...
/.../maclaren/expositions of holy scripture i/one saying with two meanings.htm

Seventeenth Sunday after Trinity the Christian Calling and Unity.
... the simple life of a Christian, of husband or wife ... They must strive against them,
submitting to all suffering, and ... were called in one hope of your calling; one ...
/.../luther/epistle sermons vol iii/seventeenth sunday after trinity the.htm

What Befell the Jews that were in Babylon on Occasion of Asineus ...
... doing nothing to please their enemies in submitting to be ... make an addition of his
power to your courage, and ... As soon therefore as her husband had been declared ...
/.../josephus/the antiquities of the jews/chapter 9 what befell the.htm

Resources
Guidelines for asking questions | GotQuestions.org

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What does it mean to become all things to all people (1 Corinthians 9:22)? | GotQuestions.org

Submitting: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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