Forgiving Ourselves
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Forgiving ourselves is a concept that, while not explicitly outlined in Scripture, is deeply rooted in the biblical principles of forgiveness, grace, and redemption. The Bible emphasizes the importance of forgiveness, primarily in the context of forgiving others, but these principles can also be applied to the personal act of forgiving oneself.

Biblical Foundation of Forgiveness

The Bible teaches that forgiveness is a central tenet of the Christian faith. In the Lord's Prayer, Jesus instructs His followers to pray, "And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors" (Matthew 6:12). This prayer highlights the reciprocal nature of forgiveness, suggesting that receiving God's forgiveness is linked to our willingness to forgive others.

God's Forgiveness and Self-Forgiveness

Understanding God's forgiveness is crucial to forgiving ourselves. The Apostle John writes, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). This assurance of divine forgiveness provides a foundation for self-forgiveness. When God forgives, He removes our transgressions "as far as the east is from the west" (Psalm 103:12), indicating a complete and total absolution.

The Role of Repentance

Repentance is a key component in the process of forgiveness. Genuine repentance involves a heartfelt acknowledgment of sin, a turning away from it, and a commitment to change. In Acts 3:19, Peter exhorts, "Repent, then, and turn back, so that your sins may be wiped away" . This turning back to God is essential for experiencing His forgiveness and, by extension, forgiving oneself.

The Example of Paul

The Apostle Paul provides a powerful example of self-forgiveness. Once a persecutor of Christians, Paul encountered Christ and became a devoted apostle. He writes in Philippians 3:13-14, "Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize of God’s heavenly calling in Christ Jesus" . Paul's ability to move beyond his past mistakes and focus on his divine calling illustrates the importance of self-forgiveness in fulfilling God's purpose.

The Transformative Power of Grace

Grace is a transformative force that enables believers to forgive themselves. Ephesians 2:8-9 states, "For it is by grace you have been saved through faith, and this not from yourselves; it is the gift of God, not by works, so that no one can boast" . Recognizing that salvation and forgiveness are gifts of grace helps believers release the burden of guilt and shame, allowing them to embrace self-forgiveness.

Living in Newness of Life

Forgiving oneself is part of living in the newness of life that Christ offers. Romans 6:4 declares, "We were therefore buried with Him through baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may walk in newness of life" . This new life in Christ empowers believers to let go of past failures and live in the freedom of God's forgiveness.

Practical Steps to Self-Forgiveness

While the Bible does not provide a step-by-step guide to self-forgiveness, several practical steps can be inferred from its teachings:

1. Acknowledge Sin: Recognize and confess your sins to God, trusting in His promise of forgiveness (1 John 1:9).

2. Accept God's Forgiveness: Embrace the truth that God has forgiven you completely and unconditionally (Psalm 103:12).

3. Repent and Turn Away: Commit to turning away from sin and living a life that honors God (Acts 3:19).

4. Renew Your Mind: Allow God's Word to transform your thinking, replacing guilt and shame with truth and grace (Romans 12:2).

5. Focus on the Future: Like Paul, choose to forget what lies behind and press on toward your calling in Christ (Philippians 3:13-14).

By applying these biblical principles, believers can experience the freedom and peace that come from forgiving themselves, aligning their hearts with the grace and mercy of God.
Topical Bible Verses
Hebrews 10:17
And their sins and iniquities will I remember no more.
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1 John 1:9
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
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Mark 11:25
And when you stand praying, forgive, if you have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
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Ephesians 4:32
And be you kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you.
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Matthew 18:21-22
Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
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Matthew 6:14-15
For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
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Library

St. Paul
... So let us do, my friends. Let us not be too hasty in forgiving ourselves.
Let us thank God cheerfully for the present. Let us look ...
/.../christianbookshelf.org/kingsley/town and country sermons/sermon xvi st paul.htm

The Forgiving Spirit in Prayer
... were all trespassing every day against one another, just like ourselves, till their ...
resentment, up into the sunshine of His own humble, loving, forgiving heart ...
/.../whyte/lord teach us to pray/xxi the forgiving spirit in.htm

'Forgive us Our Debts'
... gentleness, forbearance, and forgiveness from the existence of such gracious qualities
in ourselves. ... In a very real sense our forgiving is the condition of our ...
/.../maclaren/expositions of holy scripture a/forgive us our debts.htm

That we Ought to Offer Ourselves and all that is Ours to God, and ...
... OF THE SACRAMENT OF THE ALTAR CHAPTER IX That we ought to offer ourselves and all ...
restore me to Thy favour which by sinning I have lost, fully forgiving me all ...
/...//christianbookshelf.org/kempis/imitation of christ/chapter ix that we ought.htm

Fourteenth Lesson. When Ye Stand Praying, Forgive;'
... the consciousness that we have given ourselves in love and compassion, for those
whom God loves. The first lesson taught here is that of a forgiving disposition ...
/.../murray/with christ in the school of prayer/fourteenth lesson when ye stand.htm

Ephesians iv. 31, 32
... For the expression, "forgiving one another," is this; be disposed, he means, to
forgive ... the souls of those who have wronged us by revenging ourselves, as by ...
/.../homily xvi ephesians iv 31.htm

On the Words of the Gospel, Luke xvii. 3, "If Thy Brother Sin ...
... says, "If we shall say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the ... By forgiving,
not as though He found nothing to punish, but as finding something to ...
/.../sermons on selected lessons of the new testament/sermon lxiv on the words.htm

Scholars of Christ.
... but it is Christ's school alone which can show us how to conquer ourselves. ... we shall
learn "to be kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another ...
/.../the life of duty a years plain sermons v 2/sermon liv scholars of christ.htm

Christian Meekness
... Job 27:6). To be silent when we are slanderously traduced, is to make ourselves
appear guilty. ... The second branch of meekness is in forgiving of injuries. ...
/.../watson/the beatitudes an exposition of matthew 51-12/12 christian meekness.htm

Ephesians iv. 25-27
... coming to Church, grieving for them, confessing them, doing alms, praying, helping
the injured, and forgiving injuries. "Let us provide ourselves with these ...
/.../homily xiv ephesians iv 25-27.htm

Resources
What does the Bible say about forgiving yourself / self-forgiveness? | GotQuestions.org

What did Jesus mean when He said that we should forgive others seventy times seven? | GotQuestions.org

I have been burned and hurt by the church in the past. How can I overcome this and renew a passion for church and a desire to attend church? | GotQuestions.org

Forgiving: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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