Husbands: should Have But One Wife
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The concept of monogamy, where a husband is to have only one wife, is a principle that finds its roots in the biblical narrative and is upheld throughout Scripture. This principle is often discussed in the context of marriage, family, and leadership within the Christian community.

Creation Ordinance

The foundation for monogamous marriage is established in the creation account. In Genesis 2:24 , it is written, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." This passage highlights the divine intention for marriage to be a union between one man and one woman, forming a singular, exclusive partnership.

Old Testament Examples

While the Old Testament records instances of polygamy among certain figures, such as Abraham, Jacob, David, and Solomon, these narratives often reveal the complications and strife that arise from such arrangements. The presence of polygamy in these accounts is descriptive rather than prescriptive, and the resulting familial discord serves as a cautionary backdrop to the ideal of monogamous marriage.

New Testament Teachings

The New Testament reinforces the principle of monogamy, particularly in the teachings of Jesus and the apostolic writings. Jesus reaffirms the Genesis account in Matthew 19:4-6 , stating, "Haven’t you read... that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

The apostle Paul further emphasizes monogamy in his epistles. In 1 Timothy 3:2 , Paul outlines the qualifications for church overseers, stating, "An overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach." Similarly, in Titus 1:6 , he writes, "An elder must be blameless, the husband of but one wife, a man whose children are believers and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient." These qualifications underscore the expectation of monogamous marriage as a standard for leadership within the church.

Symbolism of Christ and the Church

The relationship between a husband and wife is also symbolic of the relationship between Christ and the Church. In Ephesians 5:31-32 , Paul draws a parallel between the marital union and the union of Christ with His Church: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery—but I am speaking about Christ and the church." This analogy further supports the notion of a singular, devoted relationship, reflecting the exclusive and faithful bond between Christ and His people.

Cultural and Historical Context

While polygamy was culturally accepted in certain ancient societies, the biblical narrative consistently points towards monogamy as the ideal. The shift towards monogamous marriage in the early Christian community set a distinct standard that contrasted with surrounding cultures, emphasizing the sanctity and exclusivity of the marital bond.

In summary, the biblical teaching that husbands should have but one wife is rooted in the creation ordinance, reinforced by New Testament teachings, and symbolically represented in the relationship between Christ and the Church. This principle serves as a foundational element of Christian marriage, promoting unity, fidelity, and the reflection of divine love.
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Genesis 2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall join to his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
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Mark 10:6-8
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
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1 Corinthians 7:2-4
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
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Why it was Sometimes Permitted that a Man Should have Several ...
... with the order of nature that men should bear rule ... Wives, submit yourselves unto
your own husbands." [2087] So ... no time lawful for one man to have a plurality ...
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Whether it is against the Natural Law to have Several Wives?
... to another what thou wouldst not were done to thyself," should be understood ... as stated
above: whereas for one wife to have several husbands is contrary ...
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Therefore as Many Women as There are Now...
... sake of a family, in case it should happen that ... holy women served two or more living
husbands: but we read ... of the heart, that then each may have praise from God ...
/.../augustine/on the good of marriage/section 19 therefore as many.htm

There is this Further, that in that Very Debt which Married ...
... are not adulteresses, yet force their husbands, for the ... being brought under a lawful
bond, should not float ... honorable to be unwilling to have intercourse save ...
/.../augustine/on the good of marriage/section 4 there is this.htm

Whether in a Case of Divorce Husband and Wife Should be Judged on ...
... natural law that a wife have several husbands than that a ... dumb animals be continent,
because they have nothing to ... than the woman's and so he should be punished ...
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Further Remarks Upon St. Paul's Teaching.
... And you will pray for your husbands, the new and ... but, on account of fornications,
let each one have his own ... hand, he "willed rather" that all should be what he ...
/.../tertullian/on monogamy/chapter xi further remarks upon st.htm

Concerning the Pharisees and Scribes Tempting Jesus (By Asking) ...
... wife" but "male and female." But we have also observed ... it should be reserved "that
he should become one ... God both mind and keep the precept, "Husbands love your ...
/.../origens commentary on the gospel of matthew/16 concerning the pharisees and.htm

Paul an Example to Widows, and to those who do not Live with their ...
... men who have lost their wives, and women who have lost their husbands, and what ... better
that a man who had been bound to one wife should henceforth remain ...
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Letter Lxxix. To Salvina.
... who become widows under threescore years will have to take husbands. ... subjection lest
that by any means when I have preached to others I myself should be a ...
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Whether Irregularity is Contracted by Marrying one who is not a ...
... husband it is required that he should not have married another wife, but not that
he should be a ... words of the Apostle (Eph.5:25): "Husbands, love your ...
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